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Help me, I’m neurotypical!

LeiaBuns

My son is 11, and I love him endlessly. I’ve thought for a long time that he is likely Autistic, probably PDA, as well as having ADHD and possibly dyslexia. Trying to get him properly assessed is a nightmare, we went through the NHS 3 years ago, but because he was home-educated at the time and we had no back up from a school they decided it wasn’t Autism/ADHD, and advised me to put him into school. He chose to start school in Sept 2020, after all the home-Ed groups stopped, thanks to covid. The first year went soooo well! But this year there have been staff issues, other kid issues, his BFF left and he started refusing to go in…school have been so kind and supportive, and whilst school definitely is not working right now, tbh home-Ed wasn’t either! My son has been violent, depressed and  suicidal this year, and I’m desperate to help support him. I want to ask Autistic adults how important it was to them to get an official diagnosis, because it’s probably going to cost us about £3000 and my husband thinks it’s okay to go without (I don’t) and also, how lenient should I be about the fact that he wants to play Xbox for 10 hours a day?! Thanks in advance :) 

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  • an official diagnosis matters only when you need to enforce Equality Act, at work, or at school etc

    from personal point of view it matters if someone self-identifies as autistc

    but you are a parent so you are unable to tell, if your child is autistic or not unless there is an official diagnossi

    you did not describe any behaviours your child exhibits, how sure are you of your child being autistic?

    to play Xbox for 10 hours is excesive for all neurotypes

    some games are actually helping a child to develop, but not those you can play on Xbox in my opinion

    I'm PC gamer, I learnt english playing RPG games, I play turn-based stragies as well, those games helped me develop sense of organisation and planning, and managing my assets, I did not get any advice about life of an adult, I had to figure it out myself, by trial and error

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  • an official diagnosis matters only when you need to enforce Equality Act, at work, or at school etc

    from personal point of view it matters if someone self-identifies as autistc

    but you are a parent so you are unable to tell, if your child is autistic or not unless there is an official diagnossi

    you did not describe any behaviours your child exhibits, how sure are you of your child being autistic?

    to play Xbox for 10 hours is excesive for all neurotypes

    some games are actually helping a child to develop, but not those you can play on Xbox in my opinion

    I'm PC gamer, I learnt english playing RPG games, I play turn-based stragies as well, those games helped me develop sense of organisation and planning, and managing my assets, I did not get any advice about life of an adult, I had to figure it out myself, by trial and error

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