Talking about your autism

I am recently diagnosed but I have suspected I was autistic for a while.  From the outset, I adopted a policy of being completely open with people about my autism as it felt like the right thing to do, because I thought that if people knew what it was like, it would help them to understand me.

Now, I am starting to wonder if I am oversharing with people.  I have noticed people try to change the subject whenever I start speaking about it and I do wonder if it is starting to annoy people. That then makes me anxious and I spend hours after spending time with colleagues and friends agonising over whether I have made an idiot of myself.  I would be interested to hear people's experiences of what they did post diagnosis and any strategies you have around oversharing stuff.  Thanks.

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  • I have found when ive told people they don't know what to do with this information. It's been a bit like "ok. And...?" I am still the same person they knew before. I think some have changed the subject because they don't want to offend or don't know what to say. Especially if you don't meet the stereotype.  I've over shared at community groups as I felt it was a safe space and relevant then felt daft afterwards as I *appear* to have no difficulties. And I wondered if these people actually needed to know. Part of me wants everyone to know as I feel we need to show different sides to autism, not just the expected presentation.  But part of me thinks it isn't really anyone else's business unless I need specific help.

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  • I have found when ive told people they don't know what to do with this information. It's been a bit like "ok. And...?" I am still the same person they knew before. I think some have changed the subject because they don't want to offend or don't know what to say. Especially if you don't meet the stereotype.  I've over shared at community groups as I felt it was a safe space and relevant then felt daft afterwards as I *appear* to have no difficulties. And I wondered if these people actually needed to know. Part of me wants everyone to know as I feel we need to show different sides to autism, not just the expected presentation.  But part of me thinks it isn't really anyone else's business unless I need specific help.

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