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Talking about your autism

Wombles

I am recently diagnosed but I have suspected I was autistic for a while.  From the outset, I adopted a policy of being completely open with people about my autism as it felt like the right thing to do, because I thought that if people knew what it was like, it would help them to understand me.

Now, I am starting to wonder if I am oversharing with people.  I have noticed people try to change the subject whenever I start speaking about it and I do wonder if it is starting to annoy people. That then makes me anxious and I spend hours after spending time with colleagues and friends agonising over whether I have made an idiot of myself.  I would be interested to hear people's experiences of what they did post diagnosis and any strategies you have around oversharing stuff.  Thanks.

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  • NTs often, like everyone, feel uncomfortable with change and about things they don't understand. Also, about subjects which are personal and sensitive. So I would guess that those people who have gone silent have done so in order to protect you, from their responses which may be ignorant of the knowledge required to effectively communicate their thoughts on an evolving subject which they are hazy about.

    In short, this might be the best we can expect, in society, at this time. Tolerance.

    This tolerance will likely open up as they themselves start to learn more about it, so their response will likely change over time now they know your diagnosis. Given them a chance, it has likely taken you a long time to learn about what autism is yourself.

    But well done for taking step 1 of a lifetime of steps to come :)

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  • NTs often, like everyone, feel uncomfortable with change and about things they don't understand. Also, about subjects which are personal and sensitive. So I would guess that those people who have gone silent have done so in order to protect you, from their responses which may be ignorant of the knowledge required to effectively communicate their thoughts on an evolving subject which they are hazy about.

    In short, this might be the best we can expect, in society, at this time. Tolerance.

    This tolerance will likely open up as they themselves start to learn more about it, so their response will likely change over time now they know your diagnosis. Given them a chance, it has likely taken you a long time to learn about what autism is yourself.

    But well done for taking step 1 of a lifetime of steps to come :)

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