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Undiagnosed brother abandoned by mother

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My brother (J) is in his early 20s, and although he has never been officially diagnosed, he clearly has autism.  He is my half-brother and I am not related to his mother. She would not accept that J clearly had special needs and is on the spectrum, and for his entire life she has refused to have him assessed or even discuss the issue.  Recently she moved with him to a new town and then suddenly packed up and left him.  Although he is in his early 20s and fully verbal, he is vulnerable, childlike and with no work experience or qualifications or knowledge/skills on how to function independently.  J does not know he is on the spectrum. Please can someone advise on what the next steps should be to support him? His money will soon run out, he is capable of basic work but I fear he could easily be taken advantage of as he is naïve and childlike. How does one go about finding support for someone far enough on the spectrum that support is essential, but who has no idea that they are autistic and need support? 

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  • This is a good amount to handle for a sibling, but I'd want to be related to you! You sound compassionate and considerate and some times that can be enough, but it also sounds like it this case he may need professional support. 

    Are you interested in him moving in with you for a period of time? Also, where is your father on all of this. If not involved, is there a way to track him down and get him involved?

    Undiagnosed autistic individuals tend to recognise they are different and once they meet other Autistic Individuals they tend to recognise the similarities. That can be the easiest way to help him learn more about himself and get the help needed. 

    Support can be local, it could be good to look into Autism resources in your area and ask for help. You could take your brother out for a coffee and pop in for a sec letting him know you're wondering if it's in the family and you want more info. At worst he may need to fail a few jobs, but chances are you could help him join a group or club, there's always meet ups with fantasy games if he's into anything in particular. 

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  • This is a good amount to handle for a sibling, but I'd want to be related to you! You sound compassionate and considerate and some times that can be enough, but it also sounds like it this case he may need professional support. 

    Are you interested in him moving in with you for a period of time? Also, where is your father on all of this. If not involved, is there a way to track him down and get him involved?

    Undiagnosed autistic individuals tend to recognise they are different and once they meet other Autistic Individuals they tend to recognise the similarities. That can be the easiest way to help him learn more about himself and get the help needed. 

    Support can be local, it could be good to look into Autism resources in your area and ask for help. You could take your brother out for a coffee and pop in for a sec letting him know you're wondering if it's in the family and you want more info. At worst he may need to fail a few jobs, but chances are you could help him join a group or club, there's always meet ups with fantasy games if he's into anything in particular. 

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