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Who else goes to prostitutes

Thom George

You may remember me, I posted about this last year. Sorry if I got mean, I was going thru tough time and took it out here. I began seeing a counselor though and she has helped, so I am nicer now.

But back to topic, I stated in the past that I have found dating impossible and instead regularly sleep with prostitutes. I am 35 year old male with aspergers, I live independently in my own apartment, have a car and I work a normal job as an office data entry clerk. I am sure many of you also live normal lives with normal jobs.

However, my aspergers has effected me socially where I struggle with social skills. I have found dating impossible and no girl has ever liked me. So when I turned 30 I had enough and began going to prostitutes for sex. Keep in mind, I live in the states, where prostitution is illegal, but that is the least of my worries.

Within 5 years time, I have slept with 39 different girls. However, I have dealt with all the risks assoicated, such as girls suckering me into lending them money and then ripping me off, one girl even stole my credit card...other issues include me being physically threatened several times and these girls doing illegal drugs (mostly crack cocaine) in my car, putting me at risk.

I also have gotten gonnerea, mrsa and I possibly got one of my escorts pregnant (she is pregnant and claims I am the father, but she lies so much) and now have to worry about her coming after me once baby is born in October.

But I feel this is my only option cuz no matter what I do, girls do not like me and I think its an common aspergers male issue. I mean its mostly my approach, I come off too strong and stare at the girl without realizing it, I have a speech impediment and I breathe heavy, sadly people judge me on first impression instead of getting to know me. And online is no better, I send a girl a few messages just asking how her day was after I dont hear back, she blocks me calling me a stalker when I was just being friendly

This is why I feel things are so hopeless.Yet I refuse to be a celibate and give up the prostitutes cuz its my coping. See I am very angry I have aspergers and feel it is a curse and I feel by being sexually immoral and sleeping around, I am rebelling against my unfair life circumstances and also rebelling against God for creating me autistic (raised religious which didnt help, but ya gave me the idea of doing this to rebel against sexually immorality with Christianity) 

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    If you've fathered a child into this harsh & dangerous world that you are unable or unwilling to devote every fibre of your being to bring up right, than, I'm sorry chap, but you may well have done a far worse thing than that blag artist...

    You sound an awful lot where I would have gone if I'd not (after careful observation of such people, and their opposite numbers) chosen a more christian set of values to follow as a lifestyle rather than a theological choice.

    I have that "I'm not going to do what I am told" demon and his mate the "i'm not going to do the thing that I know is right because it's boring" demon. (If you don't like demon, lets get secular and call it "tendancy" from now on)

    What I do is pit the two negative tendancies against each other. I figure it thus: 

    I want a happy life, and good things including relationships. THIS is my priority

    The second negative impulse is stopping me from having that, by telling me what to do, (And I can see plainly that it is steering me wrong). FIX THIS IDEA IN YOUR MIND (if you want to live!) 

    NOW, This is where religious belief gives you a huge advantage with the "demons" because it makes the process of changing your own behaviours an attitudes MUCH easier (because that's what religion does, when used properly, and not for persecuting other people who haven't got your religion!). You will automatically  visualise the demons fighting, and can encourage them to hate each other in your mind. This imaging is a powerful way to change your own mind.

    However you do it, once you have your two negative tendancies* engaged with each other, and not influencing YOU, You can re-examine you choices with much greater freedom from being told what to do.

    * (subroutines in your subconcious, antagaonistic neurons, where ever they come from, does not matter, the important thing is to pit 'em against each other!)

    You probably realise with some certainty that use of prostittutes is a big no-no with the sort of woman you'd like to have a relationship with... You probably also feel the damage it is doing to your ability to love.

    I think from what you tell us you are well able to function in many ways, (what's the longest you've held down a job? If I may ask for my own personal reasons) so you might actually have the capacity to make the changes you'd need to make in yourself to really light up a woman in bed*, and make a child who grows up to be better than you. *It's got WAY, WAY, less to do with sex, than every form of media you are exposed to tells you.. 

    But ya gotta "pay to play"!

    Except in a tiny, tiny, number of humans most of our life is spent trying to occupy ourselves inbetween rare moments of nirvana. IF you are really going to take on a lifetime relationship with a woman, and have a child, there will be BAD TIMES, which as a traditional heterosexual MAN YOU have to navigate sucessfully, towing your complaining woman behind, except on those occasions (easy to miss, they are, too!) where she does it for you... 

    I'm in a twenty year relationship where between 2011 and 2020 things were very rocky indeed. It seemed like we stopped loving each other. It was T.B.H. horrible. THIS TIME I didn't quit. I decided to sort my own *** out, which lead me to discover my Aspergers/Autism and seize control over some aspects of my life and relationship..

    You already know that a vast majority of women like a "masculine" man. What took me a long time to realise, is that it is very masculine indeed to care about how she feels, whilst at the same time it isn't very masculine to try and do anything about most of those feelings! 

    A woman is like a nice car or a flying machine, in that you HAVE to look after them, and it's hard work that sometimes appears at the most inopportune moments. Like when she says "I'm pregnant"...

    (Anyone who owns a nice car or aeroplane, and keeps it going for longer than four years, will tell you all about working to keep it nice)

    Yes, for many people, I've just (unapologeticaly) spouted "sexism". It's a thread about sex in this case, and for those of us with fixed gender and traditional leanings both male and female, sex works better with a bit of "sexism"...