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Romantic and sexual relationships

barbiegirl

Hi all. I am a newly diagnosed 20 year old woman.

I know that I am still young and "the right person will come along when I least expect it" but I am fed up of having no romantic interests. I have had quite a lot of casual sex, but almost entirely through dating apps where no flirting was particularly necessary. I've never been on a date, held hands with anyone (not that I would be interested in that...don't like palms touching) or had a romantic kiss (only been kissed to initiate sex).

It makes me feel ugly and unlovable. I don't know how to move from this casual sex, which has caused me some trauma and got me into dangerous positions, and go more towards romantic relationships. 

Advice would be appreciated. 

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  • The key is to stop having casual sex. it isn’t validating, and will make anyone feel cheap and unlovable after a while, which you are not!

    If you like that person, get to know them first. Don’t sleep with them right away. And when you do, ensure they are interested in you, your life, your well-being. Also, make it clear on the apps that you are only looking for longer term.

    You have to meet many people to find one that might be suitable. Meet for a coffee or date in public, where they can’t try and get you into bed, and where you don’t feel like you must just to see them again.

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  • The key is to stop having casual sex. it isn’t validating, and will make anyone feel cheap and unlovable after a while, which you are not!

    If you like that person, get to know them first. Don’t sleep with them right away. And when you do, ensure they are interested in you, your life, your well-being. Also, make it clear on the apps that you are only looking for longer term.

    You have to meet many people to find one that might be suitable. Meet for a coffee or date in public, where they can’t try and get you into bed, and where you don’t feel like you must just to see them again.

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