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Romantic and sexual relationships

barbiegirl

Hi all. I am a newly diagnosed 20 year old woman.

I know that I am still young and "the right person will come along when I least expect it" but I am fed up of having no romantic interests. I have had quite a lot of casual sex, but almost entirely through dating apps where no flirting was particularly necessary. I've never been on a date, held hands with anyone (not that I would be interested in that...don't like palms touching) or had a romantic kiss (only been kissed to initiate sex).

It makes me feel ugly and unlovable. I don't know how to move from this casual sex, which has caused me some trauma and got me into dangerous positions, and go more towards romantic relationships. 

Advice would be appreciated. 

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  • I agree with Dawn delete all the dating apps, they’re awful things. If my marriage ever ends I’d rather be single than have to deal with some of the horrible men you hear about on them. Do you have any hobbies? If you join a group doing something you enjoy then you’ll find some like minded people and a relationship may blossom from there. I remember feeling the same as you at 20 like I’d never find anyone,(had a couple of flings with people who’d showed me the attention and I got drawn in, despite not 100% liking them that way) but I met my husband at 22 and that was 15 years ago now

  • in reply to GuybrushThreepwood

    There are some genuine people on the apps, they are the only place I can see me finding a partner.

  • in reply to BJS

    I'm still betting on random encounter in my case, dating aps are invested by non-autistic, people that are lying on daily basis, they say the first lie of the day when they encounter the first person, it's hard to believe one of those would stop for me, I have two non-autistic friends, they admitted to do it sometimes, only because they dislike dishonesty, they still manage to slip white lie every now and then, I have no idea if they ever lied to me about something, I have no choices but to trust, it's like lying on your back in front of other dog if you're a dog, 

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  • in reply to BJS

    I'm still betting on random encounter in my case, dating aps are invested by non-autistic, people that are lying on daily basis, they say the first lie of the day when they encounter the first person, it's hard to believe one of those would stop for me, I have two non-autistic friends, they admitted to do it sometimes, only because they dislike dishonesty, they still manage to slip white lie every now and then, I have no idea if they ever lied to me about something, I have no choices but to trust, it's like lying on your back in front of other dog if you're a dog, 

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