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Not Understood

Lovewell

No one understands me and I'm saddened by that. I feel like people don't even try to understand me, they just look and then decide I'm not worth their time. Sad thing is even my family do this to me, treat me horribly tell me I'm a drama queen and most of the time pretend I'm not there. I have no friends, no one ever wants to be my friend.

I try to tell myself it doesn't matter and I'm sure there's people out there who would like me and want to be my friend but I've never met anyone like that yet. I desperately want a job and to get my own place and away from all the negativity but my anxiety is so bad I can't do it. I do a lot of drawing, animation and I'm hoping that will go somewhere in the end but for now it's just my hobby and fun. 

I'm hoping here I can at least find someone who understands.

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  • Hi Lovewell, welcome. I've been isolated from other people most of my life, never picked up the social skills that people expect me to have as an adult, and anyone I try to explain my problems to just doesn't seem understand what I'm talking about. Then I found this community and realized there are people in this world who do understand.

    I do some drawing at an art support group I go to every week, I'm really bad at it but enjoy it regardless. I used to be of the opinion that I was better off alone, but going to these groups has made me realize there is value in having friends. I'd be happy to chat with you about art (or pretty much anything besides sports and politics) whenever you like.

    As for being too anxious to get away from the negativity, I would suggest trying to push through the anxiety. Whenever something makes me anxious, after I've got it over and done, I always realize that the anxiety was just a hump in the road and on the other side of that hump things aren't as bad as I thought they would be. I thought that I wouldn't be able to handle the support groups I'm going to, but it's not nearly as bad as I thought it would be when my support worker first suggested it 6 months ago. 

  • in reply to Cat Waiter

    I was diagnosed earlier this year at the age of 57. Have been misunderstood all my life. I don't go out much, but have realised through attending an autism support group that it can make you feel better to mix with like minded people who you can be yourself with. I had convinced myself that my anxiety was so bad that I was unfit for work, but have found a job with a disability confident employer, who asked at my interview what adjustments I might need, so I feel supported before I even start my job. There is hope for us, we just need to have the right people around us.

  • in reply to NAS75725

    Definitely agree with this. My support worker has hooked me up with another local organization that helps people with mental health issues into volunteering, they also have a business team for people that want to start their own business.

    I'm not quite there with being myself at support groups yet, too much anxiety at the social groups for me to do anything but stare at the floor and listen but the more familiar I become with these people the less anxious I feel around them, but the activity-focused groups are good cause I'm doing things and have a valid reason for not speaking to anyone.

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  • in reply to NAS75725

    Definitely agree with this. My support worker has hooked me up with another local organization that helps people with mental health issues into volunteering, they also have a business team for people that want to start their own business.

    I'm not quite there with being myself at support groups yet, too much anxiety at the social groups for me to do anything but stare at the floor and listen but the more familiar I become with these people the less anxious I feel around them, but the activity-focused groups are good cause I'm doing things and have a valid reason for not speaking to anyone.

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