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Disposable people...

I Sperg

Autism brings with it a certain amount of friction between us and the normies, O.K.

BUT I've been discarded by SO very many people as if I were a used tissue.

I've had a little cluster of it this month, so it's of particular interest to me this week.

I've been working the problem for a full half century now, and I still can't quite decide why I seem to be so "discardable".

I've tried being nice, useful, controlling, submissive, and simply being myself, during various decades, but every time just when I think I've managed to get a few people around me who I can trust, it seems I discover I was either being "used", or "tolerated" by someone and my time is up....

I've learned to live with it, and just treasure the people around me who are not currently rejecting me.

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  • Let's be honest NT's are odd. They talk endlessly about themselves, what they've got, how much they earn, their positions at work, cars, houses, kids achievements..... and we'll we don't. So if you're not part of the conversation and can't be challenged and competed with, then they don't know where you fit into the group so will drop you like a bad penny.

    You either put your best mask on, and join in the conversation. (Exhausting) Or don't and accept you're not going to have many "friends"

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  • Let's be honest NT's are odd. They talk endlessly about themselves, what they've got, how much they earn, their positions at work, cars, houses, kids achievements..... and we'll we don't. So if you're not part of the conversation and can't be challenged and competed with, then they don't know where you fit into the group so will drop you like a bad penny.

    You either put your best mask on, and join in the conversation. (Exhausting) Or don't and accept you're not going to have many "friends"

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  • in reply to The Riddler

    At a stage in life, where I’ve run out of masks lol. 
    Now, I believe more in preserving energy for tasks that leave me fulfilled and proud, not as you say, exhausted, and more misunderstood by others.

    NTs are definitely odd-

    ..maybe the announcements of cars, houses,  partners, kids, work are the ways that NTs assure themselves-

    But these worlds seem to show that there is a familiar series of events for NTs

    - maybe the autistic world  is better- where there is no prescription of partner-family-house-car-work-