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Disposable people...

I Sperg

Autism brings with it a certain amount of friction between us and the normies, O.K.

BUT I've been discarded by SO very many people as if I were a used tissue.

I've had a little cluster of it this month, so it's of particular interest to me this week.

I've been working the problem for a full half century now, and I still can't quite decide why I seem to be so "discardable".

I've tried being nice, useful, controlling, submissive, and simply being myself, during various decades, but every time just when I think I've managed to get a few people around me who I can trust, it seems I discover I was either being "used", or "tolerated" by someone and my time is up....

I've learned to live with it, and just treasure the people around me who are not currently rejecting me.

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  • Hello Slight smile

    Yeah, it’s tough going.

    I always found that people only stayed in my life, because I made the effort to keep them there. In recent years, diagnosis and reclusiveness has shown me that I am alone, in terms of friendships.

    I don’t think I am interesting enough for people to become friends with me. I ask myself: Am I memorable to others? But obviously, people have received me, chipped at me a little by extending a social hand, and then have become repelled by my deficiencies, and haven’t bothered to stay in touch…

    I constantly feel like the rest of the world has been long established in social groups- so, I will never really have friends at my age (29 going on 30).

    I can peer in at people, but I can’t join in.

  • in reply to RebeccaM.

    Maybe that can give you a hint. On autcollab website I found 'definition' of how autistic make friends: 

    1. Search for people with shared interests, usually online
    2. Confirm a shared interest
    3. Start having fun by knowledge sharing
    4. Explore what can be achieved with joint capabilities and capacities
    5. Embark on significant joint projects to have more fun
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  • in reply to RebeccaM.

    Maybe that can give you a hint. On autcollab website I found 'definition' of how autistic make friends: 

    1. Search for people with shared interests, usually online
    2. Confirm a shared interest
    3. Start having fun by knowledge sharing
    4. Explore what can be achieved with joint capabilities and capacities
    5. Embark on significant joint projects to have more fun
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