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Disposable people...

I Sperg

Autism brings with it a certain amount of friction between us and the normies, O.K.

BUT I've been discarded by SO very many people as if I were a used tissue.

I've had a little cluster of it this month, so it's of particular interest to me this week.

I've been working the problem for a full half century now, and I still can't quite decide why I seem to be so "discardable".

I've tried being nice, useful, controlling, submissive, and simply being myself, during various decades, but every time just when I think I've managed to get a few people around me who I can trust, it seems I discover I was either being "used", or "tolerated" by someone and my time is up....

I've learned to live with it, and just treasure the people around me who are not currently rejecting me.

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  • I feel rejection as well, and it's painful. What I learned today is that rejection shares common neurological pathways to physical pain, so the brain interprets rejection in a similar way as it would physical pain, that even taking a Tylenol (painkiller) can alleviate the pain of rejection, but that's not a solution or a fix for rejection, but it's just an interesting finding on how rejection and physical pain are connected. I mean the solution for rejection is belonging in a social group, but that's not always possible. I mean one challenge is to meet people, and the other challenge is to maintain the bond.

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  • I feel rejection as well, and it's painful. What I learned today is that rejection shares common neurological pathways to physical pain, so the brain interprets rejection in a similar way as it would physical pain, that even taking a Tylenol (painkiller) can alleviate the pain of rejection, but that's not a solution or a fix for rejection, but it's just an interesting finding on how rejection and physical pain are connected. I mean the solution for rejection is belonging in a social group, but that's not always possible. I mean one challenge is to meet people, and the other challenge is to maintain the bond.

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