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Set feelings

autismtwo

I seem not to have flexibility in feelings, if I am uncomfortable with some one,, the feeling which I have given too myself by there behaviour is stuck. So that means when I am around this person, this set emotion is switched on regardless, I have no flexibility to wait and see and react accordingly.... I try not to hate them or be afraid off them, but my autism psyche is pre-set...to reactive fear, distaste and hate

How can make my feelings more flexible towards a person I am reacting too with distaste, even though I do not wish too, it just happens.. it means they have control of my feelings .. D'oh ! I am trying to just relax about them, but it is hard, due to the tension within and the atmosphere of negative externally.

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  • autismtwo said:
    quote"One needs to learn to recognise when our fears are well founded and when they are not.".. Yes that is my brainwiring issue with autism,, any suggestions how to do so ?

    I wish I knew, 'two! I wish I knew!

    I think, however, it starts with intellectually recognising the situations and conditions that make one fearful and questioning the validity of those fears.

    If the fear is well founded, then the process need go no further, however if it is unfounded then one can rationalise the situation, recognise that the fear is unfounded, and perhaps start to lay down the neural pathways that will help us to develop a more appropriate reaction.

    The human brain, whether typical or autistic, is highly plastic and can be shaped by experience.

    There is a whole field of psychotherapy, called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (or NLP), that uses this very principle.

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  • autismtwo said:
    quote"One needs to learn to recognise when our fears are well founded and when they are not.".. Yes that is my brainwiring issue with autism,, any suggestions how to do so ?

    I wish I knew, 'two! I wish I knew!

    I think, however, it starts with intellectually recognising the situations and conditions that make one fearful and questioning the validity of those fears.

    If the fear is well founded, then the process need go no further, however if it is unfounded then one can rationalise the situation, recognise that the fear is unfounded, and perhaps start to lay down the neural pathways that will help us to develop a more appropriate reaction.

    The human brain, whether typical or autistic, is highly plastic and can be shaped by experience.

    There is a whole field of psychotherapy, called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (or NLP), that uses this very principle.

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