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Set feelings

autismtwo

I seem not to have flexibility in feelings, if I am uncomfortable with some one,, the feeling which I have given too myself by there behaviour is stuck. So that means when I am around this person, this set emotion is switched on regardless, I have no flexibility to wait and see and react accordingly.... I try not to hate them or be afraid off them, but my autism psyche is pre-set...to reactive fear, distaste and hate

How can make my feelings more flexible towards a person I am reacting too with distaste, even though I do not wish too, it just happens.. it means they have control of my feelings .. D'oh ! I am trying to just relax about them, but it is hard, due to the tension within and the atmosphere of negative externally.

Any thoughts

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  • Yes.

    I don't think you can make your feelings more flexible.  Even if you try to appear more 'approving' of them outwardly, it is not going to work.

    Firstly - you are going to feel awful because you will be trying to be dishonest, insincere.

    Secondly - it's not going to make them appear any less 'uncomfortable' to you, inside.

    Best question what it is about them, that is making you uncomfortable with them in the first place. Then possibly avoid them, if it's not nice. Smile

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  • Yes.

    I don't think you can make your feelings more flexible.  Even if you try to appear more 'approving' of them outwardly, it is not going to work.

    Firstly - you are going to feel awful because you will be trying to be dishonest, insincere.

    Secondly - it's not going to make them appear any less 'uncomfortable' to you, inside.

    Best question what it is about them, that is making you uncomfortable with them in the first place. Then possibly avoid them, if it's not nice. Smile

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