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Elfin

I've just joined and am feeling really lonely and isolated with my undiagnosed autism. I'm a 51 year old woman and, despite both my brothers having autism, have never had anyone notice or realise that I have it too. Now I know (scored 36 on the AQ50) everything makes sense!

The doctor has told me that I most likely have autism after a brief chat but I can't access services to get an official diagnosis as, with a 'good job etc', I was told that I don't qualify as being needy enough. I get that, but it leaves me feeling like an outsider as usual. Not normal enough to be normal but not autistic enough to be autistic. 

I guess I'm just looking for some validation after all these years.

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  • Hi Elfin, don’t let one GP stop you from getting an assessment. I went to my GP last December and explained how I felt, and yes I’m 54, have a house, children, wife and my own business. My GP didn’t hesitate in referring me. Your not needy enough is not an answer. Change your GP and make a list of things that affect you. Some things are most probably buried quite deeply from school and teen years. You have two brothers who are autistic, autism is hereditary. I’ve heard the excuse of “ you won’t achieve much from an assessment “ it belongs in the dark ages. People of our age have had to muddle through life because there was no support or understanding. I often feel I have imposter syndrome, then I remind myself of what a struggle it is every day. Only my opinion but please don’t give up on your journey.

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  • Hi Elfin, don’t let one GP stop you from getting an assessment. I went to my GP last December and explained how I felt, and yes I’m 54, have a house, children, wife and my own business. My GP didn’t hesitate in referring me. Your not needy enough is not an answer. Change your GP and make a list of things that affect you. Some things are most probably buried quite deeply from school and teen years. You have two brothers who are autistic, autism is hereditary. I’ve heard the excuse of “ you won’t achieve much from an assessment “ it belongs in the dark ages. People of our age have had to muddle through life because there was no support or understanding. I often feel I have imposter syndrome, then I remind myself of what a struggle it is every day. Only my opinion but please don’t give up on your journey.

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