Does anyone else here experience constant social rejection? And does anyone have any useful adivce?
I've had to put up with it all my life and frankly I am sick of it.
Just a warning if you are going to ask me a ton of questions you better have some useful advice.
I think you should!
What do you think, is it okay to write MORE than 3 pages when doing the "morning pages" or should you stop exactly at 3 pages, even if you are in the middle of writing something? There are variables to consider such as the size of handwriting and the size of the pages etc. I have been doing 4 for good measure, as my notebook isn't A4, but not sure if this is right as it doesn't specify the page size.
Also, do you think it would be okay to take two weeks to do each week? It takes me a very long time to do things and I could not work through all the exercises properly in one week.
I realise that I am probably missing the point here!
Yep story of my life. Like being the only black sheep in a world of white sheep, no one wants to know you. Gets pretty annoying and tiring in the end...
Don't have any advice but wanted you to know you're not alone in being constantly rejected. Hopefully things will change for us both.
Brilliant! I hope it helps. I feel like I should start a group discussion here at some point!
Hello, I haven't received my copy yet, but I did also see those negative reviews on Amazon before I bought it. I don't consider mention of "God" (for want of a better word) to be a bad thing though so it did not put me off... I think however that it would put off the Person Who I Live With, although they would actually probably benefit from it if they could overcome their bias.
Just curious - I notice that some of the (very few) neg reviews on Amazon mention that there is a heavy emphasis on promoting religion in the book? I take it they are being reductive there and over-simplifying a broader infusion of sprirituality, which is a dimension of life that can't really be extracted wholesale from anything.. least of all creativity?
Or do they have a point?
Hello, I just wanted to say that I found a copy of The Artists Way on eBay for £2.52 including post and packaging so I have bought it. Thank you for the recommendation!
i dunno how to fix it, but when lonely and thinking on it and searching i found that oxytocin is the love and contact hormone and it changes how you act and how others accept you and respond to you... then i found that someone did research and found that a defect or lack of oxytocin could be to blame for autism like issues such as social withdrawl and not being accepted by society.
It is more a case of not being socially included that causes oxytocin levels to be particularly low ~ with years or which creating more long-term issues, just as conversely adrenaline levels run high if we are more active or of course more stressed and anxious ~ involving resulting free radicals causing toxic burnt out over long durations.
It is definitely though the case as you state that if there is a oxytocin production deficit ~ regarding dysfunctions in the hypothalamus and or the the posterior pituitary ~ social or personal intimacy will to the same extent be limited, or prevented.
so perhaps finding a way to get this oxytocin stuff could be a fix? most people get it from human contact and touch and so on, but ofcourse we cant get it that way and perhaps cant get that unless we first get a dose of it to perhaps make us more approachable and acceptable.
Most certainly for many autistic and other socially allergic or excluded people including of course the elderly, what with ‘pet therapy / assistance’ having long been associated with better recovery rates from ill healh and surgery ~ and less illness on the whole over the long term too, meaning as one example that housing associations have to make exceptions and allow pet ownership for tenants that need a consistent ‘oxytocin fix’ or ‘dose’ by way of pets. Some that are otherwise inclined get their dosages increased or in another way by looking after house plants and or gardening.
or maybe i just looked into it too hard and thought too much lol
Or much more as it appears a very well considered and just as well described point of view.
Thanks for these recommendations, both sound very interesting reads. I could use some of that too!
Here's what I would do.
Find Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving and The Revolution of Hope. Spend a year with these if you've not spent time in depth with philosophy. He's actually a sociologist and an easy AND enjoyable read. Allow the books to help you discover unanswered questions deep in your being. Get a notebook and write down all your thoughts on these.
Simultaneously, Read a little bit of Julian Cameron's The Artist's Way. She'll request you get all the gibberish out of your head every morning. Write down dreams and the minds chaos. She'll give you personal tasks.
Fromm should ignite a desire for critical thinking while Cameron should help awaken the being of self.
A year to really excavate these might seem too long. But both have some very valuable insight which may open up a whole new world of thinking and perceiving. From here, you may find a relief from those who dish rejection (perhaps I couldn't sever the tie) or you may find their rejection amusing. You may rethink what the other is saying as a mis-use of language. And just having new perspectives like these can make life a little more bearable.
Life is for living. And not just surviving. :)
Thanks for the book recommendation who is the author thanks.
research on being a healthy human with good ethics? Ok what does that mean and where should start.
Spell it out to me please
Start with a book called The Artists Way. The first thing one needs to learn is how to protect oneself from the onslaught that is society. NTs learn defence mechanisms which perhaps make them less intense, less vulnerable but also dull their senses. They learn in a sub-conscious collective way which autistics aren't really 'programmed' to receive (to use a computer analogy - say, we're all unique animal-bots, some of us structured to be more autistic and analytical, but the majority more 'tribal' to keep the herd together).
No one is programmed for rejection. While there is a LOT of miscommunication, a good deal of research on being a Healthy Human with good ethics and values can help bridge the gap. What's left can be re-evaluated by knowing what's Respectful and whats not.
i dunno how to fix it, but when lonely and thinking on it and searching i found that oxytocin is the love and contact hormone and it changes how you act and how others accept you and respond to you... then i found that someone did research and found that a defect or lack of oxytocin could be to blame for autism like issues such as social withdrawl and not being accepted by society.
so perhaps finding a way to get this oxytocin stuff could be a fix? most people get it from human contact and touch and so on, but ofcourse we cant get it that way and perhaps cant get that unless we first get a dose of it to perhaps make us more approachable and acceptable.
or maybe i just looked into it too hard and thought too much lol
