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Having Children

Catlover

This is specifically for females, but males can answer too if they wish….

If you were diagnosed as a child, did you still want and have children when you grew up? Or did you choose not to have any?

And for those with children, who were diagnosed in middle age, do you think you would have still wanted children if you were diagnosed earlier?

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  • I have decided that children are not on the table for me. I have Autism and ADHD and the world in itself isn't designed for me to succeed and live. I do not wish to bring anyone into this world to go through the same horrific situation i have had to deal with being different. I see people having children with additional needs and even though i struggle with recognising facial expression i often see them resenting their Child's existents and it makes me sick.

    I also see so many people having multiple autistic and struggle to gain access of support even when their child is an adult because of the barriers we face and be denied because of a lack of funds and resources.i physically cannot do that to child. i personally think it's cruel.. But that's my opinion.

    Saying that i have seen some amazing autistic families. But when asking actual parents who are both autistic if they struggled being a parents on the spectrum  is kinda scary, some of the stories they told me have confirmed not to have children.three women i know with autism who have had children developed really bad postnatal depression with every child and some autistic fathers bolt when they cant cope. 

  • in reply to Blue

    I had PND with number 1. That’s what I was told anyway, it could just as well have been a burnout for all I know, as child rearing is stressful and worrisome whether NT or ND.

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