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Having Children

Catlover

This is specifically for females, but males can answer too if they wish….

If you were diagnosed as a child, did you still want and have children when you grew up? Or did you choose not to have any?

And for those with children, who were diagnosed in middle age, do you think you would have still wanted children if you were diagnosed earlier?

Parents

  • AFAB here, undiagnosed. I knew at the age of about 3 that I would rather die than get pregnant or be a parent. I'm 35 now and feel exactly the same.

    Pregnancy is objectively physical torture. Personally, I would also experience the lack of solitude associated with parenting a young child as mental torture. I had constant meltdowns during my own childhood due to lack of alone time. Periods of my adult life when I've had to get by on less than eight hours a day have had similar effects.

    I don't see the point in wasting 20 years bringing up a child in the hope they might turn into a person you enjoy being around when there are billions of people already formed, who you could befriend, which is a lot faster and easier.

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  • AFAB here, undiagnosed. I knew at the age of about 3 that I would rather die than get pregnant or be a parent. I'm 35 now and feel exactly the same.

    Pregnancy is objectively physical torture. Personally, I would also experience the lack of solitude associated with parenting a young child as mental torture. I had constant meltdowns during my own childhood due to lack of alone time. Periods of my adult life when I've had to get by on less than eight hours a day have had similar effects.

    I don't see the point in wasting 20 years bringing up a child in the hope they might turn into a person you enjoy being around when there are billions of people already formed, who you could befriend, which is a lot faster and easier.

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