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tinydisk

Hi my girlfriend is autistic we discovered approx 9 months ago and by both reading a lot and working on adapting we made life a bit easier.

how ever the below is making life tough - if you have any ideas or strategies you have used to help please let me know .
When you read the below bear in mind we have loads of good times and days too.

cannot choose what to eat for lunch- when this happens it can ruin the whole day 
when it happens she says " I do not know" to all suggestions and it can cause a downward spiral resulting in hiding in the room all day ( sometimes a meltdown)
results - makes her feel "rubbish inside" because all the things she wanted to do can not be done.
today for example no lunch  and is stuck in the bedroom but she wants to go out and go to the martial arts class with me but does not feel peopley 

what I am looking for ideas help with this or at least to reduce how much of the day it ruins for her ?? ( already use - reminding her to think about beforehand/ and cards with words on when she cannot find any words / giving her space and coming back to it)

any thoughts appreciated

cheers 

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  • God, I hate food. Our nasty little bodies place such burdens on us. First of all you have to shop for the food - a stress on the executive function and time I'd like to devote to something else.

    Then you have to cook the damn stuff only for it to create a stench I hate and a mess that upsets my ordered world - more time waste to clean up, although I try to create as little mess as possible, but choosing food that dirties as few dishes as possible.

    Then, you have to remember you need to eat (and half the time, I forget) and then make decisions around what's healthy and what I feel I can actually put in my mouth and chew.

    Many a time I make a meal and then balk at the though of eating it.

    Moreover, the whole sensory ordeal has been worse since they took some of my teeth. Now eating is really unpleasant.

    And then, you suffer when the damn stuff goes through the digestive system. The morning IBS can be excruciating. I wish I could live on fresh air.

    I do seem to do better though if on holiday or something and it's just put in front of me without that shopping, decision making, remembering stress. I eat what I can..

    Your best approach might be to take over the meal prep, note what she likes and just put something relatively nutritious in front of her. Relieved of the mental drain, she might have more energy left for doing people at the martial arts class.

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  • God, I hate food. Our nasty little bodies place such burdens on us. First of all you have to shop for the food - a stress on the executive function and time I'd like to devote to something else.

    Then you have to cook the damn stuff only for it to create a stench I hate and a mess that upsets my ordered world - more time waste to clean up, although I try to create as little mess as possible, but choosing food that dirties as few dishes as possible.

    Then, you have to remember you need to eat (and half the time, I forget) and then make decisions around what's healthy and what I feel I can actually put in my mouth and chew.

    Many a time I make a meal and then balk at the though of eating it.

    Moreover, the whole sensory ordeal has been worse since they took some of my teeth. Now eating is really unpleasant.

    And then, you suffer when the damn stuff goes through the digestive system. The morning IBS can be excruciating. I wish I could live on fresh air.

    I do seem to do better though if on holiday or something and it's just put in front of me without that shopping, decision making, remembering stress. I eat what I can..

    Your best approach might be to take over the meal prep, note what she likes and just put something relatively nutritious in front of her. Relieved of the mental drain, she might have more energy left for doing people at the martial arts class.

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