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Who else has or does Copy other people

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I have copied people so I look more mainstream. 
The first time is when I was 7 years old. I couldn't read or write, so I watched how other children read all the books. Before long I had memorised all of the books.

when the girls played skipping or the clapping games I was not coordinated enough.

the girls didn’t include me in play they used to say, “don’t ask her she can’t skip, she’s know good at playing”. So I played on my own I felt more comfortable that way.

There have been many times I’ve copied others.

 

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  • I've often done this and, when I'm masking (even subconsciously) I'm drawing on all of my experiences of copying and trying to match the situation with the right one.  Or sometimes an amalgamation of several.  The fear is of not being accepted as I am, being rumbled as an outsider, which often happened even in spite of my efforts. 

    These days I'm more aware of when I'm doing it and why, but even now, at age 59, I find myself saying something or using a mannerism I copied from one of the more popular girls in my year at school at age around 13/14.  Sometimes I wonder who the real me is.     

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    We are very much a meld of other people, starting with parents or those that raised us, and then children and adults we interact with or see on TV etc.

    Finding the real you is just getting to know all these things, but you could really form the you that you want to be and that might be easier.

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