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Need advice on Marriage

Weazelbeast

Things reached a head recently and we had a break. I have been stuck in a cycle of feeling worthless...lazy...workshy and that im using her...while at same time trying to do more chores etc while fighting feelings of being a child...less responsibility etc...ok with basics and not wanting more.

I dont know how to stop thinking this way...everyone says id be too overwhelmed in work and im not in a good place for that to happen. It all stems from seeing world in a certain way and i struggle to understand how people live day to day. Sometimes i see things different and it makes me wonder if its all self sabotage or if its rose tinted and im not seeing world as it is and i feel guilt. 

I have a chance to mend it but people want me to drop the lazy and the work talk. How do i ditch the negative and see not working as ok and still express myself or be happy

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  • It sounds to me like overall you'd be happier working and feeling you are contributing.

    For me I found changing my job entirely really helped. I think society very quickly pigeon holes people into a particular type of work, industry etc, etc 

    Have you considered other jobs, maybe working outside, working shifts, working nights, working on your own......? Obviously I don't know you, so just throwing some thoughts around.

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  • It sounds to me like overall you'd be happier working and feeling you are contributing.

    For me I found changing my job entirely really helped. I think society very quickly pigeon holes people into a particular type of work, industry etc, etc 

    Have you considered other jobs, maybe working outside, working shifts, working nights, working on your own......? Obviously I don't know you, so just throwing some thoughts around.

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