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People are so mean

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I am sometimes better at masking, and sometimes worse. On the days where I am worse, I notice people are a lot more hostile. Today, someone posted on Facebook asking peoples opinions on vaccines. I’m a pre med student so medicine is one of my passions and hyper fixations. I posted a longer reply and it turned out that person was anti vax and didn’t like my opinion. They told me to calm down, that I’m silly, to “stop yelling” even though I didn’t use all caps, and I also got told I’m immature. I genuinely just tried to give my opinion and some information and facts, but I got completely misinterpreted. I guess it may have been rude saying that if you don’t know what RNA is you shouldn’t pretend to know how RNA vaccines work. I know I should have expected some hostility, but I thought it would be more debate-like instead of personal attacks. I posted about it on my personal page because I initially thought it was funny that someone asked for opinions and got mad that I gave mine, and once again, I was told to calm down and that I am silly. All this made me go into defense mode and I started being mean back, which I really regret now. I wasn’t even upset until those people told me that I was. I feel like I can’t express my passions or give my opinions without being “too much”. I’m so damn tired of being told I’m too much and that I need to calm down when I’m calm. If anyone wants to reply, please no vaccine discourse, I respect your bodily autonomy to get them or not and I don’t have emotional energy for that anymore today, and please be nice because people have been mean to me a lot this week and I’m feeling sensitive. I just want some compassion from other people with autism that have similar struggles. I feel like I need to stop talking about my passions and opinions in order to mask better. Edit: heads up, I usually get too anxious to respond on here.

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  • Somewhere I read/heard that a lot people who follow things like antivax etc think they are making rational decisions about things but they’re actually making emotional decisions so it will be hard to have a debate with them about it as they’ll find it hard to stay calm. It is also true that the vast majority of people had no idea RNA existed before the Pfizer vaccine and also don’t understand what it does they think it changes your DNA in a sinister way. I’m trying to remember where I heard that now about the decision making. Might be from a colleague whose husband is a neuroscience research professor. Facebook was a mad place in 2020 people were sharing so much stupid I know a lot of doctors and medical colleagues who deleted their accounts. I know it’s upsetting to feel attacked especially over a special interest but the best thing to do I find to avoid conflict is to try and ignore it for at least a couple of hours or overnight. Then decide if I still want to respond, which after that delay is more likely to be a response than a reaction. If you’re having these situations on social media a lot and it’s affecting your mental health it’s probably not a bad idea to try having a break from it 

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  • Somewhere I read/heard that a lot people who follow things like antivax etc think they are making rational decisions about things but they’re actually making emotional decisions so it will be hard to have a debate with them about it as they’ll find it hard to stay calm. It is also true that the vast majority of people had no idea RNA existed before the Pfizer vaccine and also don’t understand what it does they think it changes your DNA in a sinister way. I’m trying to remember where I heard that now about the decision making. Might be from a colleague whose husband is a neuroscience research professor. Facebook was a mad place in 2020 people were sharing so much stupid I know a lot of doctors and medical colleagues who deleted their accounts. I know it’s upsetting to feel attacked especially over a special interest but the best thing to do I find to avoid conflict is to try and ignore it for at least a couple of hours or overnight. Then decide if I still want to respond, which after that delay is more likely to be a response than a reaction. If you’re having these situations on social media a lot and it’s affecting your mental health it’s probably not a bad idea to try having a break from it 

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