Feeling like a savant and worries of delusion of grandeur

I sometimes get accused of acting superior or a know-it-all, though I don't see myself that way. To me it's just that there are topics that I've researched and thought through to a much greater depth than most people around me. So when they have a different conclusion to me, I can keep pointing out the error in their reasoning if I choose to.
I have to remind myself that this can make people feel bad, and sometimes they want to believe something despite the facts or flawed reasoning. I don't see it that way when it happens to me - if I've got something wrong and somebody can show me how I'm delighted to change my viewpoint. But I get that for others they don't see it this way and feel that a series of rebuttals is being obstinate or a put-down.

For everyone, it's all about how the information is conveyed. This is not an easy skill, but there are Rules to Diplomacy which can be found and consciously utilised. Always minding being Respectful, one can sometimes also ask the other "how best can I communicate information"? 

I've had difficulty with this too as the only thing I am completely certain of is that I'm certain of nothing and oddly this comes across as being 'certain of everything' LOL 

Is there something you could point us to on Rules to Diplomacy please?

Those are interesting, I will read those right now. Thanks!

Also, remember, sometimes Neurotypical Tribalism is all about echoing back a thing which feels out of context and odd and No One will remember 3 years from now. Except us. We will remember especially if we become momentarily invested in unearthing the truth and clarity and smoothing out the idiosyncratic bits. 

For instance, one big trend right now is 'imposter syndrome' - everyone is saying it as if they mean it and they don't. It's just the 'flavour phrase' of 2021-22. I first heard it ages ago from a doctor who had to make life and death calls, and that seemed appropriate. But actually it's used instead of saying "I feel immature" or "I have so much to learn" or "I don't feel like I fit in". It simply Virtue Signals from one NT to the next a pretence of Vulnerability. Because they are not impacted as intensely as Autistics, they will always need some phrase to echo back and forth which is really saying "I'm trustworthy and being open". Even if they're not. No one will remember this 10 years from now, they'll be a new phrase. So any time invested in to helping them see how much correction they need with this phrase is entirely useless. Best to intentionally withhold these wonderful critiques and write an essay for your autistic friends which will be remembered and engaged with. 

(yes I somewhat said some NTs have the memory of a goldfish, and some of my NT friends don't apparently mind this in the least!) Ahhhh!

If I do a search for any of these topics I've listed below, which help us with a more diplomatic approach, there will be a wealth of sites and books out there. I've found a few links, but you may be able to find more.

The first goal of Diplomacy is getting beyond a survival mode, which can make us reactionary and unaware of our limitations. Sometimes others need a bit of kindness and help even wanting to get up to our level. How to inspire this rather than repel another?

Sometimes an immediate emotional response - feeling right or justified or even impatient, can blind us to the other being just... mortal. The goal isn't to win or bash someone over the head with an encyclopaedia but to connect and help them be as excited about sharing and the finding the truth as we are. 

Finally, Knowing When to speak and When Not to speak is also important. And if it even matters to the other. In the end, no one wants to feel dismissed or disregarded or humiliated! Affording dignity is a good quality to aspire to. 

Basic tips: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/tips-disagree.html

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200930-how-to-politely-and-productively-disagree 

Diplomacy Skills: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/how-to-be-diplomatic/

Being reasonable about our own weaknesses https://www.fastcompany.com/3026105/the-importance-of-finding-and-facing-your-weaknesses 

Being Open to growth: https://www.lifehack.org/861739/17-ways-to-develop-a-growth-mindset 

Ideally, we can be charitable, respectful and critical of our own possible cognitive bias. This sort of being is the kind where someday you become the friend everyone looks to for The Answer like the tribal Sage everyone eventually seeks out for a bit of knowledge. 

If I do a search for any of these topics I've listed below, which help us with a more diplomatic approach, there will be a wealth of sites and books out there. I've found a few links, but you may be able to find more.

The first goal of Diplomacy is getting beyond a survival mode, which can make us reactionary and unaware of our limitations. Sometimes others need a bit of kindness and help even wanting to get up to our level. How to inspire this rather than repel another?

Sometimes an immediate emotional response - feeling right or justified or even impatient, can blind us to the other being just... mortal. The goal isn't to win or bash someone over the head with an encyclopaedia but to connect and help them be as excited about sharing and the finding the truth as we are. 

Finally, Knowing When to speak and When Not to speak is also important. And if it even matters to the other. In the end, no one wants to feel dismissed or disregarded or humiliated! Affording dignity is a good quality to aspire to. 

Basic tips: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/tips-disagree.html

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200930-how-to-politely-and-productively-disagree 

Diplomacy Skills: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/how-to-be-diplomatic/

Being reasonable about our own weaknesses https://www.fastcompany.com/3026105/the-importance-of-finding-and-facing-your-weaknesses 

Being Open to growth: https://www.lifehack.org/861739/17-ways-to-develop-a-growth-mindset 

Ideally, we can be charitable, respectful and critical of our own possible cognitive bias. This sort of being is the kind where someday you become the friend everyone looks to for The Answer like the tribal Sage everyone eventually seeks out for a bit of knowledge. 

Those are interesting, I will read those right now. Thanks!

Also, remember, sometimes Neurotypical Tribalism is all about echoing back a thing which feels out of context and odd and No One will remember 3 years from now. Except us. We will remember especially if we become momentarily invested in unearthing the truth and clarity and smoothing out the idiosyncratic bits. 

For instance, one big trend right now is 'imposter syndrome' - everyone is saying it as if they mean it and they don't. It's just the 'flavour phrase' of 2021-22. I first heard it ages ago from a doctor who had to make life and death calls, and that seemed appropriate. But actually it's used instead of saying "I feel immature" or "I have so much to learn" or "I don't feel like I fit in". It simply Virtue Signals from one NT to the next a pretence of Vulnerability. Because they are not impacted as intensely as Autistics, they will always need some phrase to echo back and forth which is really saying "I'm trustworthy and being open". Even if they're not. No one will remember this 10 years from now, they'll be a new phrase. So any time invested in to helping them see how much correction they need with this phrase is entirely useless. Best to intentionally withhold these wonderful critiques and write an essay for your autistic friends which will be remembered and engaged with. 

(yes I somewhat said some NTs have the memory of a goldfish, and some of my NT friends don't apparently mind this in the least!) Ahhhh!