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Aggression in adults

Lucy


Hi!

I really struggle with my emotions, in particular anger. I can’t seem to control my anger at all. It will be over small things and usually out of frustration. I was wondering if anyone had found a way of coping with anger as an adult and if there are any groups/therapies that are helpful in this area as it’s beginning to effect my relationships with my family/friends/partner.

thanks!

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  • I suffer with this a lot. I just discovered that I'm autistic along with ADHD I was already diagnosed with and spoke about it with my wife and finally understand why I feel angry or irritable so often, and feel constantly on edge. It's actually helping me not to hate myself because of it now I understand that all the stresses and sensory overload is what is causing it. What I have found helpful in this short period of time is explaining to my wife that I was being grumpy or rude to her because these different things that cause me stress/overload happened all in a short period of time and then I apologize for my behaviour towards her. It's not always an instant magic solution, it's understandable that it can take time for them to get over your behaviour too.  What I hope to learn to do is when I'm feeling really irritable or overwhelmed tell her before I speak out in frustration. I've never been violent towards someone but I almost constantly feel in a fight or flight mode. Maybe learning anger management tips will be helpful for us too.

  • in reply to IsitAutism

    Now that I’ve been diagnosed I do try and explain my emotions more than I would before as it’s easier to understand where they are coming from now. It does feel like I’m constantly fight or flight mode as well with people regularly telling me I jump straight to being defensive rather than just realising they are trying to have a conversation with me and not have a go at me. Yes hopefully some anger management tips will help all of us. Although I’ve tried a few and found the majority to only help for a little bit before I get too angry but maybe they will help the more I practice them

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  • in reply to IsitAutism

    Now that I’ve been diagnosed I do try and explain my emotions more than I would before as it’s easier to understand where they are coming from now. It does feel like I’m constantly fight or flight mode as well with people regularly telling me I jump straight to being defensive rather than just realising they are trying to have a conversation with me and not have a go at me. Yes hopefully some anger management tips will help all of us. Although I’ve tried a few and found the majority to only help for a little bit before I get too angry but maybe they will help the more I practice them

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