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Aggression in adults

Lucy


Hi!

I really struggle with my emotions, in particular anger. I can’t seem to control my anger at all. It will be over small things and usually out of frustration. I was wondering if anyone had found a way of coping with anger as an adult and if there are any groups/therapies that are helpful in this area as it’s beginning to effect my relationships with my family/friends/partner.

thanks!

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  • Sounds like you have a low frustration threshold, if small things are enough to trigger anger.

    Its hard, and people will just say stop being angry but that would be like telling a problem gambler to suddenly stop, small chance it might work buts its very unlikely.

    There are trigger(s) and then your reaction.  We can't really stop triggers, only chance our reaction.  Your thoughts and beliefs decide your reaction, so you have to a learn a reaction that isn't angry, like 'annoyed'.  It takes time and effort to learn a better way.

    You could see if your GP can refer you for an anger management course, or try online courses/guides or self-help book.

    Get them involved if you can, explain you need help with it.

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  • Sounds like you have a low frustration threshold, if small things are enough to trigger anger.

    Its hard, and people will just say stop being angry but that would be like telling a problem gambler to suddenly stop, small chance it might work buts its very unlikely.

    There are trigger(s) and then your reaction.  We can't really stop triggers, only chance our reaction.  Your thoughts and beliefs decide your reaction, so you have to a learn a reaction that isn't angry, like 'annoyed'.  It takes time and effort to learn a better way.

    You could see if your GP can refer you for an anger management course, or try online courses/guides or self-help book.

    Get them involved if you can, explain you need help with it.

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