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Keeping the house tidy

lestrange

Hello everyone, 

I am 23, recently diagnosed with ASD and on the lengthy list for an ADHD assessment too. My whole life I have struggled with tidying and cleaning but recently it has really been getting to me. In my teen years when I first had my own place I feel like it was deemed acceptable to have a messy flat, because that's just 'being a teenager' but as I've got older I have started noticing peoples negative reactions more. 

I live alone and allow my flat to get so cluttered and filthy it is probably deemed a health hazard. I have tried so many things to try and stay on top of it all such as making lists, just doing one small thing at a time, I've even got to the point before where I have binned all my plates and cutlery and just started again with only one plate so I HAVE to clean it. This whole situation is really affecting my mental health as I am reluctant to invite people over in fear of what they'll say, I don't eat a good diet because cooking means washing up, the environment is overwhelming and stressful because of all the mess. I really want to be able to keep a tidy house, my brain just doesn't allow me. So far the only thing that gets me to clean is when the landlady sends someone over to service the boiler or a guy comes over for a bit of fun, but even then I only do the rooms that they will be in, and not to a great standard. Unfortunately I cannot afford to hire a cleaner, so I wondered if any of you have any better suggestions? Or at least similar stories so I feel less alone and ashamed. 

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  • I think I am like you in some respects. As a child/young teenager, my bedroom was almost always untidy. I improved when I moved out of my parents' home, but that was partly because I was raising a child of my own. Now, I find it a struggle to keep on top of housework and really have to psych myself up to do it. I find though that if other areas of my life are OK, it seems to give me more of a proverbial kick up the backside to tackle bits and pieces.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    I use to be quite houseproud, i suppose 'cos my Mum was so fussy, when i left home i just took after her. But i'm finding it harder and harder to do things these days. I keep talking about moving house, 'cos this place is much much to big just for me. I'm sure if i had a smaller plsce i'd manage better. But if i was to move, that would  mean having to pack things. I started towards the end of last i must have 20/30 binbags of stuff in the garage, ready to go to charity shops, but none of them will pick-up, and now i don't drive anymore, i  can't take them.

    I started a big clean over the weekend, still lots to sort but it's better  than it was.

  • in reply to Cullpepper

    Haha thats really interesting to hear as I often think if I get a bigger place I might manage better, or at least it'd look less cluttered with all the extra space. I hope you find a solution to disposing of all the binbags! Have you anyone that'd give you a lift even if just to take a couple?

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