Hello… anyone feel judged with the way they are? Like being autistic or something like that??.
Hello… anyone feel judged with the way they are? Like being autistic or something like that??.
Yes, all the time. I'm kind of obsessed with getting people to like, I'm starting to think it might even count as a special interest. Mostly the judgement is by me projecting my thoughts onto others.
Sometimes though, like at work when my boss comment EVERYDAY on the fact that I have the same "weird boring" stuff for lunch (are crisps and cereal bars weird? Also who manages to have unique lunch every day?) I know that I am being judged by someone else for real and it upsets me, but then I very quickly just get angry (internally) at the other person (which is not good).
But I will admit that I judge people too, I think it's a human thing that allows us to make quicker decision about people. I judged my friend for putting a penny she found on a wet public bathroom floor in her mouth and now I won't eat anything she has touched.
People are weird, relationships are weird, judgment is a thing that isn't going anywhere. I would just keep being your most comfortable you and not worry too much about judgment of others. One day you might prove their judgements wrong. But you definitely can't force a whole world of people to be kind and think the same way you do (unfortunately)
Sometimes though, like at work when my boss comment EVERYDAY on the fact that I have the same "weird boring" stuff for lunch (are crisps and cereal bars weird? Also who manages to have unique lunch every day?)
I think eating crisps and cereal bars for lunch everyday would only be weird if you didn't enjoy eating them. Also, not everyone has adventurous tastes and wants to try different foods. I have often been deemed to have a boring and limited diet because there is a lot of food that I do not like the taste of.
I've seen this as well in workplaces, scrutinising diets seems to be one more irritating 'small talk' nuance. Now I'm working again I am glad I drive and have my car to go to for my break on my own and rather than eating in shared areas. If asked what I've had I've just replied that I preferred not to say in front of everyone, one notable response from a (now ex) colleague was they got particularly taken aback and said "I wasn't going to judge you I just thought it was something to ask to get to know you". I always thought of diets as a private thing while so many past and present colleagues are clearly so public about them.
Sometimes though, like at work when my boss comment EVERYDAY on the fact that I have the same "weird boring" stuff for lunch (are crisps and cereal bars weird? Also who manages to have unique lunch every day?)
I think eating crisps and cereal bars for lunch everyday would only be weird if you didn't enjoy eating them. Also, not everyone has adventurous tastes and wants to try different foods. I have often been deemed to have a boring and limited diet because there is a lot of food that I do not like the taste of.
I've seen this as well in workplaces, scrutinising diets seems to be one more irritating 'small talk' nuance. Now I'm working again I am glad I drive and have my car to go to for my break on my own and rather than eating in shared areas. If asked what I've had I've just replied that I preferred not to say in front of everyone, one notable response from a (now ex) colleague was they got particularly taken aback and said "I wasn't going to judge you I just thought it was something to ask to get to know you". I always thought of diets as a private thing while so many past and present colleagues are clearly so public about them.
