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Attachment in friendships

sphynx

Hi all,

I’m very clingy in friendships and I think it can be intense for the other person. One friend in particular I have been kind of obsessed with for about 7 years: I’ve been in love with them for that time, and I very frequently think and fantasise about them. We were really close at one point but there’s been a lot of fluctuation in our connection, which I find really painful. Wondering if anyone can relate either to the obsessiveness or the struggling with flux in friendships? Maybe the former could be connected with special interests - is this person a special interest for me? Is a mind prone to getting obsessed with things more likely to get obsessed with friends too? And perhaps the latter could be part of a more general discomfort with change, (although in most other situations I struggle with this less)? Or maybe it’s just me… I’d appreciate some thoughts. Thanks in advance :)

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  • Many of us on the spectrum can experience difficulties forming friendships, and as a result we can have a much smaller circle of close (trusted) friends than people who aren't on the spectrum. Because we have fewer close friends, I think this can sometimes make us more intense and clingy.

    Whilst I think about my close friends on an almost daily basis, and can get a little obsessed if I've not heard from them for a while, the only close friends that I have ever fantasised about were ones that I had hoped to be romantically involved with.

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  • Many of us on the spectrum can experience difficulties forming friendships, and as a result we can have a much smaller circle of close (trusted) friends than people who aren't on the spectrum. Because we have fewer close friends, I think this can sometimes make us more intense and clingy.

    Whilst I think about my close friends on an almost daily basis, and can get a little obsessed if I've not heard from them for a while, the only close friends that I have ever fantasised about were ones that I had hoped to be romantically involved with.

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