Autism and ADHD

I’m more of a Purple Ella or How to ADHD kinda person. 

even though he is relatable, he doesn’t have the experience with CPTSD that comes from the commodity of having both autism and adhd.  He also come from a background of moderate priverlidge of having a supportive family and he assume that a lot of us have that support system, we don’t most of are rejected by our families. 

I hear you. I just think that he's using his privilege to help others is no small matter. He could probably be doing something selfish instead? I actually don't know much about his back ground. But given the state of things and how difficult it is for Neurotics (NT) to even understand what autism actually is, any help is useful.

I have a father in the US who is incredibly intelligent and thick as punch, who won't even listen to what autism actually is. His wife couldn't be any more NT and has been rather awful to me growing up, even though she worked with young children in 'special ed'. It's not till recently it's making sense to her I'm (as she AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGES, On the spectrum). But it doesn't change the strain on these relationships. 

My mother finally asked if I 'had Aspergers' 6 years ago - as if I ever had the money to get a proper diagnostic (she moved far away, kicked us out at 17/18 because that's the 'only way to learn' and assumed I was just rolling in dough, meanwhile I'm struggling to make the poverty line). I've suffered insurmountable abuse and rejection - I should be completely fvk'd by now, but the work I've done to get here, to even become not too embittered, and able to finally buy a couch... is nothing short of remarkable if not divine. I can afford a little for a therapist now and as far as I'm concerned that's an incredible feat considering how many times I've been fired for "not fitting in".

So I feel you. But there's strength in numbers and I never realised I'd find humans who I could relate with. I'm one for taking remarkably small wins and finding the smallest light in the darkest of places. He might not be your cup of tea - I get it! 

I did find this helpful. And to be fair, it's all still much under researched. I cannot understand why the great amount discovery and conceptualising from early anti-psychiatry movement (not the hijacked version scientology pretends to employ) has been completely and entirely overlooked. If it hadn't, we'd all have a much better life. 

I hear you. I just think that he's using his privilege to help others is no small matter. He could probably be doing something selfish instead? I actually don't know much about his back ground. But given the state of things and how difficult it is for Neurotics (NT) to even understand what autism actually is, any help is useful.

I have a father in the US who is incredibly intelligent and thick as punch, who won't even listen to what autism actually is. His wife couldn't be any more NT and has been rather awful to me growing up, even though she worked with young children in 'special ed'. It's not till recently it's making sense to her I'm (as she AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGES, On the spectrum). But it doesn't change the strain on these relationships. 

My mother finally asked if I 'had Aspergers' 6 years ago - as if I ever had the money to get a proper diagnostic (she moved far away, kicked us out at 17/18 because that's the 'only way to learn' and assumed I was just rolling in dough, meanwhile I'm struggling to make the poverty line). I've suffered insurmountable abuse and rejection - I should be completely fvk'd by now, but the work I've done to get here, to even become not too embittered, and able to finally buy a couch... is nothing short of remarkable if not divine. I can afford a little for a therapist now and as far as I'm concerned that's an incredible feat considering how many times I've been fired for "not fitting in".

So I feel you. But there's strength in numbers and I never realised I'd find humans who I could relate with. I'm one for taking remarkably small wins and finding the smallest light in the darkest of places. He might not be your cup of tea - I get it! 

I did find this helpful. And to be fair, it's all still much under researched. I cannot understand why the great amount discovery and conceptualising from early anti-psychiatry movement (not the hijacked version scientology pretends to employ) has been completely and entirely overlooked. If it hadn't, we'd all have a much better life. 

I'm sorry. It sounds like you are going through a lot. And thank you, I enjoy sharing what I've learned.

One of the first things I did when I was younger was realise guilt and shame are not part of my make up. Being upset for being overlooked, misrepresented, disconnected, misunderstood most of my life, I don't need to feel guilt or shame. In fact, I came to find out (10-15 years later) these are currencies of exchange for NeuroTypicals/Neurotics. Can we respond better? At some point, but it may take a while to learn to expand our understanding of what is happening and adjust our perspective. 

I also have had healthy mentors, much older women in my life I met from a few different church groups who could see my potential and hear my intent even if they didn't completely understand me. That kind of guidance and practical help allowed room for me to mess up and try again. Everything is redeemable :) Possibly even time... 

I do like the saying 'if not now, when'. It's good to learn to become a person with integrity and I believe it's easier for autistic individuals to craft who they are internally and then spend time learning to match their words and actions/desires. Be authentic and graceful. Even if one begins with The Artists Way, there are so many books out there with practical tools to help! 

Things can ease up. I still have demons I battle and past hurts that haunt me. But I don't want to be bitter and I think just understanding who I want to be regardless is one way of keeping grounded. x 

Ah, Paul's videos helped me on my journey and getting my diagnosis. I find the way he speaks soothing. 

I think your wisdom to this community is amazing. 

I had a massive meltdown last night, I should of seen it coming as I turned fidgety and reckless. Being newly diagnosed has maybe affected me more than I thought. My husband said I'm maybe grieving for the lost years and upset that I can never properly change. So I was mad with autism and life last night. Today I feel weak but calmer but also guilty and ashamed. I'm truly sorry if I upset anyone.