Autism and ADHD

its a nightmare when you have both thought and their both considered neurological developmental disorders. It's typical its those without intercultural disability who happen to have both autism and adhd tend to live far shorter life spans than those with only autism. individuals with both are more likely going to be unemployed and have greater challenges for them to access employment and other opportunities than individuals who have one or the other. 

when you have both their is higher chance that you will struggle to gain a driving licence which traps many in unemployment. Their have been greater debates weather the adhd and autism are the same disorder and their is an increase possibility considering that genes mutations that occur in both disorders are the same. it why they stop trying to trying to locate the exact DNA to diagnosis autism because they noticed the same genes where also appearing in those with OCD, Epilepsy and juvenile Schizophrenia. Japanese research is still looking into this 3 decades on.  

Churchill was famous for having language disorder growing up and he fits more with the adhd criteria than the autism criteria and this was a man who would often take baths in front of foreign powers leaders   

Although they share many of the same symptoms, the two are distinct conditions. Autism spectrum disorders are a series of related developmental disorders that can affect language skills, behavior, social interactions, and the ability to learn. ADHD impacts the way the brain regulates attention and impulse control

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I'm sorry. It sounds like you are going through a lot. And thank you, I enjoy sharing what I've learned.

One of the first things I did when I was younger was realise guilt and shame are not part of my make up. Being upset for being overlooked, misrepresented, disconnected, misunderstood most of my life, I don't need to feel guilt or shame. In fact, I came to find out (10-15 years later) these are currencies of exchange for NeuroTypicals/Neurotics. Can we respond better? At some point, but it may take a while to learn to expand our understanding of what is happening and adjust our perspective. 

I also have had healthy mentors, much older women in my life I met from a few different church groups who could see my potential and hear my intent even if they didn't completely understand me. That kind of guidance and practical help allowed room for me to mess up and try again. Everything is redeemable :) Possibly even time... 

I do like the saying 'if not now, when'. It's good to learn to become a person with integrity and I believe it's easier for autistic individuals to craft who they are internally and then spend time learning to match their words and actions/desires. Be authentic and graceful. Even if one begins with The Artists Way, there are so many books out there with practical tools to help! 

Things can ease up. I still have demons I battle and past hurts that haunt me. But I don't want to be bitter and I think just understanding who I want to be regardless is one way of keeping grounded. x 

Ah, Paul's videos helped me on my journey and getting my diagnosis. I find the way he speaks soothing. 

I think your wisdom to this community is amazing. 

I had a massive meltdown last night, I should of seen it coming as I turned fidgety and reckless. Being newly diagnosed has maybe affected me more than I thought. My husband said I'm maybe grieving for the lost years and upset that I can never properly change. So I was mad with autism and life last night. Today I feel weak but calmer but also guilty and ashamed. I'm truly sorry if I upset anyone.

I hear you. I just think that he's using his privilege to help others is no small matter. He could probably be doing something selfish instead? I actually don't know much about his back ground. But given the state of things and how difficult it is for Neurotics (NT) to even understand what autism actually is, any help is useful.

I have a father in the US who is incredibly intelligent and thick as punch, who won't even listen to what autism actually is. His wife couldn't be any more NT and has been rather awful to me growing up, even though she worked with young children in 'special ed'. It's not till recently it's making sense to her I'm (as she AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGES, On the spectrum). But it doesn't change the strain on these relationships. 

My mother finally asked if I 'had Aspergers' 6 years ago - as if I ever had the money to get a proper diagnostic (she moved far away, kicked us out at 17/18 because that's the 'only way to learn' and assumed I was just rolling in dough, meanwhile I'm struggling to make the poverty line). I've suffered insurmountable abuse and rejection - I should be completely fvk'd by now, but the work I've done to get here, to even become not too embittered, and able to finally buy a couch... is nothing short of remarkable if not divine. I can afford a little for a therapist now and as far as I'm concerned that's an incredible feat considering how many times I've been fired for "not fitting in".

So I feel you. But there's strength in numbers and I never realised I'd find humans who I could relate with. I'm one for taking remarkably small wins and finding the smallest light in the darkest of places. He might not be your cup of tea - I get it! 

I did find this helpful. And to be fair, it's all still much under researched. I cannot understand why the great amount discovery and conceptualising from early anti-psychiatry movement (not the hijacked version scientology pretends to employ) has been completely and entirely overlooked. If it hadn't, we'd all have a much better life. 

I’m more of a Purple Ella or How to ADHD kinda person. 

even though he is relatable, he doesn’t have the experience with CPTSD that comes from the commodity of having both autism and adhd.  He also come from a background of moderate priverlidge of having a supportive family and he assume that a lot of us have that support system, we don’t most of are rejected by our families.