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Boundary blending with social cohesion

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With Autism my boundaries are very rigid and set. I get overwhelmed when those boundaries are invaded by external stimulas,, aka people and overwhelming situations.

I find I have a meltdown on boundary change instigated by others external and get overwhelmed, maybe not by the sitution itself, but the way which the engagement I feel in pushed or forced upon me,,, they are just going to fast so to say.

Is there a way of blending boundaries(autism and the world) so that social cohesion is easier,, i.e trust, calmest and relaxed ?

How can you slow down or get used to the worlds fast moving boundary changes, or as I call it social blending without difficulty to increase my social cohesion ability ?

Any thoughts ? Smile

 

 : "o"(autism) + "o"(world) = 8(boundary bending into social cohesion) ~ equation 1. Laughing

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Third offering - noisy cafe environments. Now I don't mind these so much. And indeed I found disco/club environments OK when I was of an age for trying to use them. Why easier? They are both crowded environments with complex movement and complex noise. So I have tried to analyse such situations by sitting and listening.

    I think the clubland situations are just white noise. And you cannot really talk to anyone. So its a kind of security in having all sensitivity totally blasted out.

    With noisy cafes I now spend time listening and analysing them. There are many conversations going on. They are often small so I'm near the entrance often (and I actually like pavement watching if I can sit in the window) but there is the issue of traffic noise from outside. The making of coffee etc and washing plates, dropping plates can be very noisy, and sudden loud noise isn't good for me either.

    But I find that regular exposure is helping. Noisy cafes become familar noise. I can predict it is going to be hard going. But I can also account for most of the noise.

    So I actually enjoy sitting in a cafe and analysing all the different noise sources that impact on me.

    Don't know if these three examples explain sufficiently my ideas about exploring situations, what they consist of, and what they mean to me.

    But I think by understanding difficult environments better, I can decide on a level of exposure I'm able to cope with, which means I'm not avoiding situations so much. But also I can work out better when a situation is becoming uncomfortable, and take evasive action when necessary, or give myself another five minutes before I know I'll react adversely, if I cannot exit immediately.

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  • Third offering - noisy cafe environments. Now I don't mind these so much. And indeed I found disco/club environments OK when I was of an age for trying to use them. Why easier? They are both crowded environments with complex movement and complex noise. So I have tried to analyse such situations by sitting and listening.

    I think the clubland situations are just white noise. And you cannot really talk to anyone. So its a kind of security in having all sensitivity totally blasted out.

    With noisy cafes I now spend time listening and analysing them. There are many conversations going on. They are often small so I'm near the entrance often (and I actually like pavement watching if I can sit in the window) but there is the issue of traffic noise from outside. The making of coffee etc and washing plates, dropping plates can be very noisy, and sudden loud noise isn't good for me either.

    But I find that regular exposure is helping. Noisy cafes become familar noise. I can predict it is going to be hard going. But I can also account for most of the noise.

    So I actually enjoy sitting in a cafe and analysing all the different noise sources that impact on me.

    Don't know if these three examples explain sufficiently my ideas about exploring situations, what they consist of, and what they mean to me.

    But I think by understanding difficult environments better, I can decide on a level of exposure I'm able to cope with, which means I'm not avoiding situations so much. But also I can work out better when a situation is becoming uncomfortable, and take evasive action when necessary, or give myself another five minutes before I know I'll react adversely, if I cannot exit immediately.

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