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Boundary blending with social cohesion

autismtwo

With Autism my boundaries are very rigid and set. I get overwhelmed when those boundaries are invaded by external stimulas,, aka people and overwhelming situations.

I find I have a meltdown on boundary change instigated by others external and get overwhelmed, maybe not by the sitution itself, but the way which the engagement I feel in pushed or forced upon me,,, they are just going to fast so to say.

Is there a way of blending boundaries(autism and the world) so that social cohesion is easier,, i.e trust, calmest and relaxed ?

How can you slow down or get used to the worlds fast moving boundary changes, or as I call it social blending without difficulty to increase my social cohesion ability ?

Any thoughts ? Smile

 

 : "o"(autism) + "o"(world) = 8(boundary bending into social cohesion) ~ equation 1. Laughing

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • I think that everybody is doing and acting too fast nowadays. There isn't room to be eccentric or even slightly adrift of expectations.

    Already mobile phone abbreviations are affecting speech. So it gets harder and harder to recognise what people are trying to convey - less linguistics more inference, attitude and gesture.

    We are also in a world with too much competitive sound - traffic, shop music and externally audible ipods, ring tones, audio feedback hums and static. So yes the encounters with external boundaries will get more hurtful.

    I've mentioned on other threads I have my own way of adapting (but my AS is probably not typical so its not necessarily everyone's solution). I try to sit down somewhere, or failing that option just to stand somewhere within the uncomfortable environment and explore what it consists of and what it means to me.

    That way I can familiarise with it, get more control over it, and decide how much will be upsetting and when I need to take evasive action, and when it is tolerable.

    That is my way of softening boundaries. Hopefully it might help others.

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  • I think that everybody is doing and acting too fast nowadays. There isn't room to be eccentric or even slightly adrift of expectations.

    Already mobile phone abbreviations are affecting speech. So it gets harder and harder to recognise what people are trying to convey - less linguistics more inference, attitude and gesture.

    We are also in a world with too much competitive sound - traffic, shop music and externally audible ipods, ring tones, audio feedback hums and static. So yes the encounters with external boundaries will get more hurtful.

    I've mentioned on other threads I have my own way of adapting (but my AS is probably not typical so its not necessarily everyone's solution). I try to sit down somewhere, or failing that option just to stand somewhere within the uncomfortable environment and explore what it consists of and what it means to me.

    That way I can familiarise with it, get more control over it, and decide how much will be upsetting and when I need to take evasive action, and when it is tolerable.

    That is my way of softening boundaries. Hopefully it might help others.

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