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Hi there. I'm new here and am having a problem in my relationship. The main problem is that I don't like or feel anything for him. Because of my autism I feel very little about anyone, I just don't get attached. But also I am masking pretty much all the time so I don't think that helps either but if I don't mask I crash and burn so it's got to be done. The other more recent problem with my relationship is that I think it's become abusive and a bit toxic and cruel. Last night my boyfriend ran me down and embarrassed me in front of his friends and they all laughed at me. And he knows I hate being touched unless I'm feeling in a really good place and happy, and last night I wasn't but he intentionally touched me all over, not sexually, but he still did touched my skin and hair which really upset me. I want to leave but I've got no job, no money as such not enough to live on. I literally depend on him for almost everything. I don't know what to do for the best.

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  • If you feel disrespected and that the relationship is turning abusive then get in contact with a woman's refuge or think I saw woman's aid mentioned above, failing that try your GP and he will be able to help you with numbers and maybe even a referral, I know first hand what it's like I tried to hold on to something to long because it was only form of happyness I ever had for the last 2 years of my life, I found out she lied,cheated, stole thousands of me and especially my family, she took advantage of me having no friends and I knew what she was doing but didn't want to be on my own again, I struggle with decision still, but if there's no respect there there's no love, there are organisations that will help you I'm sure, one fact is this it's easier to go now rather than later or at least talk to him make him aware of how you feel and the consequences if he does it again, is he normally like this ? Or is it maybe him thinking he being funny when clearly not? Let him know your boundaries and if he aware that you won't be humiliated again and does .. walk away because as a fellow human being your worth more .. stay strong

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  • If you feel disrespected and that the relationship is turning abusive then get in contact with a woman's refuge or think I saw woman's aid mentioned above, failing that try your GP and he will be able to help you with numbers and maybe even a referral, I know first hand what it's like I tried to hold on to something to long because it was only form of happyness I ever had for the last 2 years of my life, I found out she lied,cheated, stole thousands of me and especially my family, she took advantage of me having no friends and I knew what she was doing but didn't want to be on my own again, I struggle with decision still, but if there's no respect there there's no love, there are organisations that will help you I'm sure, one fact is this it's easier to go now rather than later or at least talk to him make him aware of how you feel and the consequences if he does it again, is he normally like this ? Or is it maybe him thinking he being funny when clearly not? Let him know your boundaries and if he aware that you won't be humiliated again and does .. walk away because as a fellow human being your worth more .. stay strong

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