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Disclosing own adult diagnosis to teenage son

Nervosa

Hello,

I am 47 and very recently received a diagnosis of ASD. I haven’t told my son yet as he’s 18 and away at university. I’m not sure how to explain this to him, especially as I’ve always considered him to be very similar to me which now makes me think he might be autistic too. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m okay with telling friends and other mature family members, but I’m unsure as to approach this as a parent. 
Thanks. 

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  • Your son must know you very well presumably so it’s not likely he’d be massively surprised that you have autistic traits. Also younger people (my son’s are not far from your son’s age) are generally really clued up about neurodiversity, gender issues, disability etc - these are big subjects on social media now. I think it’s highly unlikely that he’d be shocked in that sense. Presumably he loves you too so I don’t see why he’d be judgemental towards you. He’s obviously very intelligent so he’s probably already picked up on the fact that you are a little different in some ways? Either way - you need to be proud of who you are - and a part of that is being an autistic woman - and also have faith in your son that he will react in a mature and understanding way. I’m sure it will be ok. Let us know how you get on. :) 

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  • Your son must know you very well presumably so it’s not likely he’d be massively surprised that you have autistic traits. Also younger people (my son’s are not far from your son’s age) are generally really clued up about neurodiversity, gender issues, disability etc - these are big subjects on social media now. I think it’s highly unlikely that he’d be shocked in that sense. Presumably he loves you too so I don’t see why he’d be judgemental towards you. He’s obviously very intelligent so he’s probably already picked up on the fact that you are a little different in some ways? Either way - you need to be proud of who you are - and a part of that is being an autistic woman - and also have faith in your son that he will react in a mature and understanding way. I’m sure it will be ok. Let us know how you get on. :) 

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