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Reacting to change, shock and surprises.

Sassenach

I react quite badly to any form of change, shock or surprise.
An email about a direct debit rise for example can send me into a tailspin. Even something tiny, such as an assistant unexpectedly removing and keeping a coat hanger from an item of clothing at the checkout can cause stress and anxiety 

I had other examples in mind, but am still reacting to something  that happened recently so I can't think properly right now. 


It's not that I can't be impulsive, because I can. But anything that blindsides me can send me into a small or a major meltdown

My ways of coping are to sleep, or if that isn't possible, play a game on my phone or watch a favourite TV show wearing my comfy clothes.  But I'm looking for ways of managing my reactions to changes, rather than just coping after I've had the reaction.





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  • I have a customer who has become one of my few friends, he rang me last weekend and offered to pay for a complete day out at the NEC Birmingham. Train and everything for the day plus a guest. I totally lost the plot, he offered to send his son with me who is a 34 year old adult, I reverted to my childhood stutter, I found every reason not to go, I’ve only met his son about 3 times, he’s a lovely person. The killer was the the trip would be for the next day. I just couldn’t process it. My friend did pickup on my struggle to answer and knows that I’m autistic. He realised it was one of my struggles and we ended the call still as friends. I had to drive later in the day and got lost about 4 times  on a route that I’ve done 100 times, my wife had to drive back. I think it was the first time that my wife understood how a sudden change can affect me. I should have been grateful for such a nice gift, it totally ruined my day.  Sorry to overshare I’m still trying to accept how different I am and have hidden for 50 plus years.

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  • I have a customer who has become one of my few friends, he rang me last weekend and offered to pay for a complete day out at the NEC Birmingham. Train and everything for the day plus a guest. I totally lost the plot, he offered to send his son with me who is a 34 year old adult, I reverted to my childhood stutter, I found every reason not to go, I’ve only met his son about 3 times, he’s a lovely person. The killer was the the trip would be for the next day. I just couldn’t process it. My friend did pickup on my struggle to answer and knows that I’m autistic. He realised it was one of my struggles and we ended the call still as friends. I had to drive later in the day and got lost about 4 times  on a route that I’ve done 100 times, my wife had to drive back. I think it was the first time that my wife understood how a sudden change can affect me. I should have been grateful for such a nice gift, it totally ruined my day.  Sorry to overshare I’m still trying to accept how different I am and have hidden for 50 plus years.

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