Parent thinking autism is "an excuse"

I am currently waiting for an autism assessment as it was recently suggested that it is likely that I am on the ADS. This has been a huge revelation and so much of it resonates with me and it would make so much sense. My mum has been very understanding (and is starting to think that she is probably also autistic- I agree...). I also mentioned the possibility to my dad (my parents are divorced). Yesterday I talked to my dad on the phone as I wanted to get his advice on a difficult situation I am in... instead my dad got very mad at me saying that I was just using the autism label as an excuse to not sort out my life and to hide behind. I felt extremely misunderstood as I have been trying so hard for years and as I am really struggling at the moment.  Has anyone else experienced this reaction from people? I have very low confidence anyways at the moment and it is not helped by the fact that I am not formally diagnosed yet (and of course I have my own fears that I could be label seeking ). Realising that I am probably autistic has been a huge revelation and relief for me... and it is helping me understand my patterns and myself and also to accept myself more... I am struggling with burnout at the moment and my dad's comments yesterday really pulled me down.

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  • I had an autistic friend years ago who I cut out of my life after he made some incredibly racist comments. This was before I realized I was autistic or even knew enough about autism to recognize that he unquestionably was and on top of that was far worse at masking then me. After that I felt bad for a while but the more I thought about it the more I realized that I’d never feel a shred of guilt about wanting to disassociate from a neurotypical racist and the only difference between a neurotypical and autistic racist was that the former would just do a better job of hiding their racism or only expressing it in code and on top of that that being autistic is never an excuse for being a bigot.

  • Yep. Anyone who makes "race" a big issue needs to go...

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