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Helping me understand myself

Mattyhobs

I have recently been diagnosed with autism. Being 45 I've found it very hard coming to terms with it. But it has made me think about how I act and it does explain a lot about me. I don't communicate well at all and as I will talk to other people I don't socialise.

It's cause of my partner now that I've been diagnosed, but she gets angry with me because of the way I am. I forget things and I tend to shut off without knowing I'm doing it. and i won't have a conversation or I do and i say something totally wrong which winds her up, so I talk less.

I was wondering if anyone knows about any help that's out or people to talk with. As I dont know much about aurtism or what sort of help I need.

I'm not very good at writing things like this and people tend to find it confusing or don't get what I mean. This is rewrite number 102 lol

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  • I'm in a very similar position to you. I too was diagnosed late in life and my partner is also struggling. She says that I'm becoming "more autistic". It's very hurtful when those around us don't seem to understand us.

    I've found that sharing resources is often a better way to increasing the level of understanding in others.  Asperger's From The Inside is a really great YouTube channel for both you and your partner to take a look at. You probably won't resonate with everything he says but it's often a good jumping off point.

    My partner is neurotypical too and she also finds it hard to understand me. It doesn't matter how clearly I put things or how much I try to explain there's just a gap in her understanding. Be patient with them though and I'm sure she'll start to catch on soon enough. You need to be patient with Neurotypicals, their minds are often clouded with emotional jumble and they find it hard to look at issues objectively. I'm being facetious here obviously but the message is sincere.

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  • I'm in a very similar position to you. I too was diagnosed late in life and my partner is also struggling. She says that I'm becoming "more autistic". It's very hurtful when those around us don't seem to understand us.

    I've found that sharing resources is often a better way to increasing the level of understanding in others.  Asperger's From The Inside is a really great YouTube channel for both you and your partner to take a look at. You probably won't resonate with everything he says but it's often a good jumping off point.

    My partner is neurotypical too and she also finds it hard to understand me. It doesn't matter how clearly I put things or how much I try to explain there's just a gap in her understanding. Be patient with them though and I'm sure she'll start to catch on soon enough. You need to be patient with Neurotypicals, their minds are often clouded with emotional jumble and they find it hard to look at issues objectively. I'm being facetious here obviously but the message is sincere.

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