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How to tell your partner your needs?

NAS78181

Hello everyone :)

I am a NT and I have a question about the best way to tell your autstic partner your needs? Should i write to him or say it? How would you prefer your partner tell you their needs. I also wonder how you communicate with your partners? 

Thanks Slight smile

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    1. honestly. trying to soften the blow often just create confusion. If there is bad news better to get it over with fast like ripping off a plaster.
    2. As far as is posable don't just say what you want or what you feel is an issue also try to explain why. Reasons and context are very important and you can't assume they are obvious.
    3. Specifically. Don't say 'I don't feel you do enough round the house.' Say, 'I dislike chore X and I feel you should do it more often.' Don't say, 'I feel things are getting boring in bed.' say, 'I want position X.'
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    1. honestly. trying to soften the blow often just create confusion. If there is bad news better to get it over with fast like ripping off a plaster.
    2. As far as is posable don't just say what you want or what you feel is an issue also try to explain why. Reasons and context are very important and you can't assume they are obvious.
    3. Specifically. Don't say 'I don't feel you do enough round the house.' Say, 'I dislike chore X and I feel you should do it more often.' Don't say, 'I feel things are getting boring in bed.' say, 'I want position X.'
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