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Aged 52 and Stuck

NeilStone1970

Has anyone else ever been completely stuck in their life, and out of ideas about how make things better? I’m 52 and diagnosed with Aspergers by my local NHS Mental Health Team when I was 45. I don’t have any friends and my only relative is my mother (who I live with) who is n’t able (and has never been able) to offer any support.

Problem is the Mental Heath Team did n’t offer any different treatment when they diagnosed me. Neither the NHS treatment (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) or any of the other therapies I’ve tried have improved my life at all. Most therapies end up with the therapist saying "why can't you jut do this" or "why can't you just do that" or, worse, give me a lecture on how I have face my fears. Basically grow a pair and just do it. Trouble is, that does n't help me at all. I feel put on, demoralised and definitely not empowered or encouraged. 

I have anxiety about doing most things and feel depressed most of the time. That’s been the case as long as I remember.

I went to an Aspergers Group a couple of weeks ago, but I came away feeling even more depressed. Other people seemed were more confident and did all of the talking, and I just could n’t get into it.

 All the therapists I’ve ever seen just taught me a technique (like CBT) or got me to talk about my childhood and then told me to just get on with it. I need something else, but I don’t know what to call it. Some sort of long-term support I can keep going back to and I can get help for things that other people think are trivial, like the process of making friends, buying things, dealing with generalised anxiety. 

Any thoughts?

 

Thanks

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  • Well if you just feel anxiety and depression no matter what you do, and it seems like you're always stuck in this fearful state, and can't really pin-point the exact cause of the fear, and even if you've faced your fear, it does not really resolve your fearful feelings, and your fear is just there no matter what you try to think and do, and maybe you have some other issues like sleep problems or other physical health problems that seem to come and go, and no type of "mind over matter" advice from anyone really helps you, then I really advise you to try to temporarily do this for a week or so, try to cut out inflammatory foods like gluten and dairy, because these foods can cause some people's immune systems to go haywire and cause the body to deteriorate. But of course if the cause is not food, then just eat them again, but I'd advise to try the food route, before you try things like antidepressants since medical costs adds up and they only handle the symptoms and does not cure the problem, but if the problem is with food, then simply avoiding the food will be the cure. 

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  • Well if you just feel anxiety and depression no matter what you do, and it seems like you're always stuck in this fearful state, and can't really pin-point the exact cause of the fear, and even if you've faced your fear, it does not really resolve your fearful feelings, and your fear is just there no matter what you try to think and do, and maybe you have some other issues like sleep problems or other physical health problems that seem to come and go, and no type of "mind over matter" advice from anyone really helps you, then I really advise you to try to temporarily do this for a week or so, try to cut out inflammatory foods like gluten and dairy, because these foods can cause some people's immune systems to go haywire and cause the body to deteriorate. But of course if the cause is not food, then just eat them again, but I'd advise to try the food route, before you try things like antidepressants since medical costs adds up and they only handle the symptoms and does not cure the problem, but if the problem is with food, then simply avoiding the food will be the cure. 

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