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ASD and understanding flirting

Catlady31

Hi everyone, back again as I'm still overthinking my son's first assessment appointment.  He is 19.

One of the questions asked was 'Do you know when someone is flirting with you?.  I could tell he was a bit embarrassed by being asked even though he had a covid face mask on - his eyes altered and he moved a bit in his chair.  He shifted in his seat and replied 'yes I do' then hastily said 'because it has happened to me and I knew'.

I really don't know if he's telling the truth here or whether he was embarrassed so said this because he thinks he should know and didn't want her to think he didn't (I don't know he has this thought process).  I could be completely wrong with this, but I thought ASD made you struggle alot with knowing when someone is flirting or can it be easier for some than others?.

I wish this was all over, it's driving me insane as I keep going over his responses in my head. 

Thank you for your thoughts.

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  • I was diagnosed with ASD somewhat late, but spent years observing behaviour and mimicking it in order to fit in (I attended boarding school from 11-18, making fitting in an absolute), so your son doing the same, or something similar (providing an answer he believes is expected) seems normal to me.

    I find it hard to tell when a woman is flirting with me and usually need to perform a mental checklist, including analysing facial muscles and speech to see if it's flirting. From a male perspective, and given your son's age, what you perceive as embarrassment makes sense.

    I hope that's of some use. 

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  • I was diagnosed with ASD somewhat late, but spent years observing behaviour and mimicking it in order to fit in (I attended boarding school from 11-18, making fitting in an absolute), so your son doing the same, or something similar (providing an answer he believes is expected) seems normal to me.

    I find it hard to tell when a woman is flirting with me and usually need to perform a mental checklist, including analysing facial muscles and speech to see if it's flirting. From a male perspective, and given your son's age, what you perceive as embarrassment makes sense.

    I hope that's of some use. 

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