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ASD and understanding flirting

Catlady31

Hi everyone, back again as I'm still overthinking my son's first assessment appointment.  He is 19.

One of the questions asked was 'Do you know when someone is flirting with you?.  I could tell he was a bit embarrassed by being asked even though he had a covid face mask on - his eyes altered and he moved a bit in his chair.  He shifted in his seat and replied 'yes I do' then hastily said 'because it has happened to me and I knew'.

I really don't know if he's telling the truth here or whether he was embarrassed so said this because he thinks he should know and didn't want her to think he didn't (I don't know he has this thought process).  I could be completely wrong with this, but I thought ASD made you struggle alot with knowing when someone is flirting or can it be easier for some than others?.

I wish this was all over, it's driving me insane as I keep going over his responses in my head. 

Thank you for your thoughts.

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  • I think we are all different. Some will know, others won’t. I spent my teens and twenties thinking people were simply staring at me because I looked horrible or odd. I was angry at men approaching me whilst on a night out, as I found it rude for them to just walk up and start chatting without an invite. Even in my 40’s I can chat to a man and not realise why he’s talking to me. I might be being helpful with something, or replying to a customer at work etc, and often don’t realise I’m being hit on until later that day.

    As for flirting myself, I know what to do to get a man’s attention, and if I am getting to know someone, I’m quite open about my intentions. I don’t see the point in wasting time if you like someone, or even if you don’t. It’s good to be upfront, and I find men appreciate it, whether it’s to their favour or not.

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  • I think we are all different. Some will know, others won’t. I spent my teens and twenties thinking people were simply staring at me because I looked horrible or odd. I was angry at men approaching me whilst on a night out, as I found it rude for them to just walk up and start chatting without an invite. Even in my 40’s I can chat to a man and not realise why he’s talking to me. I might be being helpful with something, or replying to a customer at work etc, and often don’t realise I’m being hit on until later that day.

    As for flirting myself, I know what to do to get a man’s attention, and if I am getting to know someone, I’m quite open about my intentions. I don’t see the point in wasting time if you like someone, or even if you don’t. It’s good to be upfront, and I find men appreciate it, whether it’s to their favour or not.

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