Hello,
i met a man recently who has autism and we are dating, but I have never known anyone on the autistic spectrum before. He makes me so happy I can’t stop smiling because he is an amazing man, so I’m upset that I confused him early on, and still do sometimes. It is early days but we are passionate together so he feels very special to me and I don’t want to cause him more confusion or upset him. It would be awful if he stopped seeing me.
I’m researching autism and am annoyed that I was so late for our first ever date.. I want to treat him better and I sometimes think that he deserves someone who wouldn’t have treated him badly at the start. I hope he has forgiven me. Does anyone know whether he might hold onto resentment about the unpredictable way I was with him? I messed him around about meeting up, several times, as I was going through a hard time myself. I didn’t realise then that he had autism,
He has some anxiety with food and body image which I don’t understand but it isn’t a problem. I wonder how I can best navigate mealtimes so he feel comfortable.
I want to respect him and be sensitive to him, but I also don’t want to be too gentle as we are having fun together and I don’t want to feel like his mum or something.. He is older than me! He gave me the best Valentine’s Day of my whole life and I really want to show him how much I appreciate him. Can anyone suggest ways I can show him how much I like him?? I know everyone is different but you may have some tips to help me be a good girlfriend!
Any tips are appreciated, this is completely new to me. I just want him to feel good, he makes me feel amazing, Thank you for your time.
Rosie
