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Researching interests but not actually taking part

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Often it seems I have an interest in something and can read and read and read and research about it but when it comes to actually applying myself to take part in said interest, I find it difficult to get myself started - knowing where to start, what to do. Or I force mself to start and it feels half arsed or I don't seem to get anywhere with it. It feels like I'd rather just read about it and collect "favourites" in my bookmarks but never actually do anything with them. Can anyone relate to this at all

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  • in reply to James

    Yes its like a need and I do find it really enjoyable.

    Also I totally get what you mean feeling lost when there's nothing to grab you or an interest has come to a natural end.

  • in reply to Deleted User
    Unknown said:
    collecting information rather than objects

    This is really interesting - I has something very similar said to me at my assessment.

    May I ask - regarding the reading and reading - is it enjoyable, and/or something that you 'need' to do?

    (I am currently somewhat lost not having a interest - or, rather, having an interest that is no longer able to be followed through.)

  • in reply to James

    I was told at my assessment it seems I like collecting information rather than objects. I think your point is really valid though. 

    I do a lot of reading before I start something.  I think there's different layers....wanting to do things right, wanting to know as much about something as possible just cos I do. Sometimes its essier to read and read than actually do. Dealing with others isn't a barrier for me really, it's about getting started or finishing something. I think some of it is to do with executive function difficulties. 

    Then I get annoyed with myself about not getting started or giving up too easily.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    That's a really good point. I wonder if there can be distinct categories between the two groups - say, to use the cliche of trains, those who plan a journey but never go on it and those who develop a focus on timetables.

    To loop back to your original comment, you mention applying yourself to start. I find this interesting, because research is a kind of applying oneself and a start. I often have this issue where I think "where do I start" - even though I have, in a sense, already started. It is the moment I have to deal with another living human that is often the barrier (even though, when I do achieve it, it wasn't really an issue).