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Researching interests but not actually taking part

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Often it seems I have an interest in something and can read and read and read and research about it but when it comes to actually applying myself to take part in said interest, I find it difficult to get myself started - knowing where to start, what to do. Or I force mself to start and it feels half arsed or I don't seem to get anywhere with it. It feels like I'd rather just read about it and collect "favourites" in my bookmarks but never actually do anything with them. Can anyone relate to this at all

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  • I can relate a little with some of my creative hobbies - 3D printing and woodwork. I spend hours watching youtube and have invested in tools and equipment but I usually find it quite difficult to start a project. I've got loads of ideas in my head of things to make but when it I finally get some free time I just don't know where to start and end up just staring at the workbench or my screen for ages. 

    I think a big part of it is beings scared of failure or my perfectionism - The design has to be perfect so I agonise over every design decision and as a result I never actually build anything. I'm trying to keep in mind that I get more skilled by practicing and that the act of doing it wrong and learning from my mistakes is far more rewarding than playing it too safe and never actually achieving anything, but it is difficult. 

  • in reply to Spreadsheets&Pizza

    Yes I can see about the perfectionism and relate to it. With gardening because you can never get it perfect, it's trial and error so I find it difficult to just get on with it! If something doesn't grow I feel a responsibility. I think I also have a bit of a problem with...kind of....wasting things or throwing them away. For anything not just gardening. So I don't want to do something wrong and then it ends up going in the bin. 

    I like the idea of learning from our mistakes. This is the kind of advice I would give a friend.

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  • in reply to Spreadsheets&Pizza

    Yes I can see about the perfectionism and relate to it. With gardening because you can never get it perfect, it's trial and error so I find it difficult to just get on with it! If something doesn't grow I feel a responsibility. I think I also have a bit of a problem with...kind of....wasting things or throwing them away. For anything not just gardening. So I don't want to do something wrong and then it ends up going in the bin. 

    I like the idea of learning from our mistakes. This is the kind of advice I would give a friend.

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