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Feeling Embarrassed When Compared to Others

Jasmine

I'm 26 and started a new job in November which is a job share, I have half an hour of cross over time with my counterpart on a Friday and I always end up feeling ashamed seeing how well she interacts with others and how well liked she is, knowing that I don't chat to the same level she does or laugh along with people. Does anyone else have have anxiety while they watch others interact because they wish they knew the right things to say? 

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  • If you brought up card games here, I would like to share with you folks a nice experience. My brother Sam has been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome. In the beginning, it was tricky to find a common language with him. After a while, I noticed he has a particular interest in card games, especially Rummy. Moreover, soon he became very good at it like he had an innate talent. It was hard to find worthy opponents for him during pandemics, so we moved to online Rummy (www.khelplayrummy.com/). I wonder if this preference for card games is common in Asperger's. Any thoughts are welcomed.

  • in reply to HerveyFults

    Big apology to the O/P, Jasmine, for diverting your thread, but it's kinda "organic" and hard not to reply. (And for once a thread seems to have gone off on a nice positive tangent.. That's a rare thing on the internet, and perhaps we ought to let it grow!)

    We like games because the rules are clearly defined, and the normies essential advantage, obfuscation/dishonesty is nullified in the context of a "game".

    This is why I keep recommending the book "Games people play" by Eric Berne.

    For a game playing autist, being able to extend into the normie world by using those very skills, seemed like a godsend when I discovered it. Yet after a year or more of slipping it into my posts as much as I dare, I've still had NO FEEDBACK from the community!

    It's not like its hard to find or expensive. It is a bit tough going and I am certain I didn't get all it had to offer, (nothing like it!) but I got enough to become likeable and trustworthy (within my well known limitiations) without having to put on an act. 

    As for fun games for all the family, you must try "Nuclear War" by buffalo games (on ebay usually).

    It's always been a big hit when I get it out. (Now I got old, I gave my copy to my kid!) 

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  • in reply to HerveyFults

    Big apology to the O/P, Jasmine, for diverting your thread, but it's kinda "organic" and hard not to reply. (And for once a thread seems to have gone off on a nice positive tangent.. That's a rare thing on the internet, and perhaps we ought to let it grow!)

    We like games because the rules are clearly defined, and the normies essential advantage, obfuscation/dishonesty is nullified in the context of a "game".

    This is why I keep recommending the book "Games people play" by Eric Berne.

    For a game playing autist, being able to extend into the normie world by using those very skills, seemed like a godsend when I discovered it. Yet after a year or more of slipping it into my posts as much as I dare, I've still had NO FEEDBACK from the community!

    It's not like its hard to find or expensive. It is a bit tough going and I am certain I didn't get all it had to offer, (nothing like it!) but I got enough to become likeable and trustworthy (within my well known limitiations) without having to put on an act. 

    As for fun games for all the family, you must try "Nuclear War" by buffalo games (on ebay usually).

    It's always been a big hit when I get it out. (Now I got old, I gave my copy to my kid!) 

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