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Impossible to let go

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I have High-Functioning ASD, ADHD and GAD, and I am currently separated. My wife and I have been more-or-less doing everything together, albeit not living together, for over 2 years. With the exception of COVID and lockdown, we have been getting on great.

But a few weeks ago she told me she had no feelings for me for over 3 years and that she was merely following the GOV.UK guidelines - whatever that means.

My initial reaction was pure shock and even up until now it doesn't feel real. I feel as though I am in a state of denial that things are what they are, that she doesn't mean it and that I am being punished.

Family and friends are being very supportive, but it feels like I am hard-wired not to give up and to keep on trying to do more and more even if it makes my symptoms worse - which it has several times.

I feel like I am trapped inside a bubble in my mind that belongs to her and there is no escape, but even if there was a means to escape I'm afraid of what's outside the bubble, and therefore I'm reluctant to get out.

I'm sorry if that makes no sense - that's just how I feel all the time.

Is this a normal thought process?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :)

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  • any form of complex emotional is normal, If you were not experiencing this you would be a psychopath and we would have to duct-tape you to an ironing bored before you go all supervillain on us .so the fact your feeling this way is very typically normal. 

    it may take longer to process it because your a neurodivergent king and that is okay as long as you don't force or try and control the other person.If there's no longer any mutual emotional attachment between you and your ex partner to be just friends than its better to remove that bandage and go find yourself a unicorn. A unicorn is often a term for finding someone or something that you are fated to encounter.

    it's going to be a dangerous quest filled with ups and downs. you'll encounter a few Zebras, Horses and Ponies who have duct taped a traffic cone to their head, but if your determined you will find what you're looking for. it's often is the last place you search.

    from experience if you taken this advice literally, you will not find what yours looking for at a zoo or animal sanctuary. 

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  • any form of complex emotional is normal, If you were not experiencing this you would be a psychopath and we would have to duct-tape you to an ironing bored before you go all supervillain on us .so the fact your feeling this way is very typically normal. 

    it may take longer to process it because your a neurodivergent king and that is okay as long as you don't force or try and control the other person.If there's no longer any mutual emotional attachment between you and your ex partner to be just friends than its better to remove that bandage and go find yourself a unicorn. A unicorn is often a term for finding someone or something that you are fated to encounter.

    it's going to be a dangerous quest filled with ups and downs. you'll encounter a few Zebras, Horses and Ponies who have duct taped a traffic cone to their head, but if your determined you will find what you're looking for. it's often is the last place you search.

    from experience if you taken this advice literally, you will not find what yours looking for at a zoo or animal sanctuary. 

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