Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
I started uni last semester. The 1st semester had a rough start but was okay, fun even. But after coming back from the Christmas holidays I have been miserable. My flatmates are loud and messy and put flashing lights in the kitchen when they drink everynight. I realise I don't have many friends here and the friends I do have all have better friends than me if that makes sense and rarely want to hang out. Its really lonely. Especially when i can hear people having fun partying in the kitchen when I am not welcome (my bedroom is next to the kitchen). I have exams this week and next week and its hard to revise when you're burnt out from all the meltdowns. Im not doing well academically, im used to As and Bs but im not getting that here.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
You’re pretty much describing my second year at university. I really struggled with the lack of authoritative input as well, like the lecturers didn’t care so much if you couldn’t be arsed where as school came down on you more if you strayed out of line (although I still messed up my AS levels because there was more autonomous learning expected) I also understand exactly what you mean about friends having better friends and also the random parties right next to my room. I did much better in the first year where we lived more separately in halls rather than sharing houses. My second degree though I excelled in because I lived at home and it was part of my job so it was easier to focus on the work and wasn’t an issue if I kept more to myself whilst at lectures. Does your university have any more private accommodation they could move you to? Have you spoken to the lecturers or the disabilities team about your struggles?