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Coping with loneliness

Kj

I just wanted to see if anyone struggles with this as I do?

I'm 35 and I have no family whatsoever (difficult childhood) except my 2 children, I have no partner and no friends as I seem unable to maintain any friendships due to my lack of social skills and understanding and I just feel so alone in this world that I don't understand and feel alien in!! I have a part time job but other than work, the school run and walking my puppy, I don't go out. I feel like such a failure and a bad example to my children (my eldest is also autistic) and keep obsessing about how alone they would be if anything happened to me as I have no family to support them when I'm gone.

I have no one I can talk to about being autistic as the only other person I know who has autism, is my 15 Yr old daughter but I'm supporting her and caring for her.

Maybe I just needed to vent and get this off my chest but I feel like I've become invisible. I used to take pride in my appearance but now I care but don't see the point so make no effort. My children must be embarrassed to be seen with me, poor things. 

It just feels like the world is so big and everyone else knows how to navigate their way around and have people around them to help and Im just lost, on my own Pensive

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  • You are NOT a failure!  Making social connections is hard for anyone on the spectrum.  I think even some neurotypicals can feel lost in the world, and certainly someone on the spectrum.  And raising children is something to be proud of in itself.

    I was very lonely throughout my twenties and most of my thirties (I'm thirty-eight).  I shared those feelings of being alone and alien, and of being lost in the world. Eventually I met my fiancee, which is a whole long and complicated story.  Before then, I found some relief in support groups.  I've also found online friends through blogging and reading other people's blogs, which is a form of socialising that I can manage a lot more easily than in-person friendships.  I recently joined this forum for a similar reason.

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  • You are NOT a failure!  Making social connections is hard for anyone on the spectrum.  I think even some neurotypicals can feel lost in the world, and certainly someone on the spectrum.  And raising children is something to be proud of in itself.

    I was very lonely throughout my twenties and most of my thirties (I'm thirty-eight).  I shared those feelings of being alone and alien, and of being lost in the world. Eventually I met my fiancee, which is a whole long and complicated story.  Before then, I found some relief in support groups.  I've also found online friends through blogging and reading other people's blogs, which is a form of socialising that I can manage a lot more easily than in-person friendships.  I recently joined this forum for a similar reason.

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