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Using Autism as an excuse

Magnolia1

My family are cross with me as they say that since I was diagnosed I am using my autism as an excuse not to change my behaviour and that am doing things now that I wouldn't have  done before and "blaming" it in on my autism. 

I don't know how to deal with this information. Do I need to pretend that I am not autistic and go back to masking and hiding who I really am? Do I need to act as if I never got a diagnosis and not mention my autism ever again? 

My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because  now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.

I really don't know what I am supposed to do this information or what I should do about it!

Has anyone else had this happen to them? Any advice on what I should do?

I feel like no-one is willing to accept me as I am and everyone is fed up with me being autsistic!

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  • ....The only good thing about bots - occasionally they prompt the resurrection of an interesting old thread.

    I definitely get the feeling that this applies to me (ie effectively people judging me and my behaviours and wondering whether I really am and/or if I am trying to use autism as my excuse of choice to explain past failures and legitimise current odd performances.)

    I would find it SIGNIFICANTLY easier to deal with this if NT's actually said what they thought out loud to the people concerned.  Unfortunately, this is not my experience - people are two faced quite often in my sad experience and will say "good for you" to your face and "sad looser jumping on a band wagon" to each other.

    I'm glad that I have quite thick skin.........and "you lot" on these pages to keep my perspectives balanced.  Thank you all.!

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  • ....The only good thing about bots - occasionally they prompt the resurrection of an interesting old thread.

    I definitely get the feeling that this applies to me (ie effectively people judging me and my behaviours and wondering whether I really am and/or if I am trying to use autism as my excuse of choice to explain past failures and legitimise current odd performances.)

    I would find it SIGNIFICANTLY easier to deal with this if NT's actually said what they thought out loud to the people concerned.  Unfortunately, this is not my experience - people are two faced quite often in my sad experience and will say "good for you" to your face and "sad looser jumping on a band wagon" to each other.

    I'm glad that I have quite thick skin.........and "you lot" on these pages to keep my perspectives balanced.  Thank you all.!

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