Published on 12, July, 2020
My family are cross with me as they say that since I was diagnosed I am using my autism as an excuse not to change my behaviour and that am doing things now that I wouldn't have done before and "blaming" it in on my autism.
I don't know how to deal with this information. Do I need to pretend that I am not autistic and go back to masking and hiding who I really am? Do I need to act as if I never got a diagnosis and not mention my autism ever again?
My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.
I really don't know what I am supposed to do this information or what I should do about it!
Has anyone else had this happen to them? Any advice on what I should do?
I feel like no-one is willing to accept me as I am and everyone is fed up with me being autsistic!
I totally relate to this. I'm currently waiting for diagnosis and am going through a very anxious/depressed time at the minute. I've been off work since September and I'm now at a point where I can't leave the house alone so I don't understand how I'm ever going to be able to return to work and no one seems to understand. My husband just thinks I'm making excuses about work and I'm pretty sure he thinks I should just 'get over it'. It all makes me feel so very sad and as if there's no point in going on.
i read a book "Just do it anyway " it helped me fight back against the closing doors of depression/anxiety. It's not easy. ppl who dont have depression just cant relate to its clamp like nature