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Using Autism as an excuse

Magnolia1

My family are cross with me as they say that since I was diagnosed I am using my autism as an excuse not to change my behaviour and that am doing things now that I wouldn't have  done before and "blaming" it in on my autism. 

I don't know how to deal with this information. Do I need to pretend that I am not autistic and go back to masking and hiding who I really am? Do I need to act as if I never got a diagnosis and not mention my autism ever again? 

My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because  now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.

I really don't know what I am supposed to do this information or what I should do about it!

Has anyone else had this happen to them? Any advice on what I should do?

I feel like no-one is willing to accept me as I am and everyone is fed up with me being autsistic!

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  • Magnolia1 said:
    My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because  now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.

    My wife said exactly the same as this.  We are both trying to find a way forward using the knowledge that I have ASD.  For the most part it is been hugely positive but there are difficulties and areas which we still haven't work through yet.  It takes time but if you both deeply care for each other you should be able to get to a new way of working in your relationship and it will be the better for it too.

    At least that is what I am pushing towards.

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  • Magnolia1 said:
    My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because  now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.

    My wife said exactly the same as this.  We are both trying to find a way forward using the knowledge that I have ASD.  For the most part it is been hugely positive but there are difficulties and areas which we still haven't work through yet.  It takes time but if you both deeply care for each other you should be able to get to a new way of working in your relationship and it will be the better for it too.

    At least that is what I am pushing towards.

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